Friday 31 August 2007
Thursday 30 August 2007
Wednesday 29 August 2007
The Attraction of Opposites – How to add balance to your daily life
Hi Everyone,
Balance is very important. It’s the yin and yang of life that keeps us healthy and energetic. I have been learning this lesson the hard way but I hope this tip will save you the trouble and make it a little easier to learn balance. Let me explain.
My education is in information technology. Yes I admit it I am a geek at heart! To this day, I still remember my first computer a Commodore 64 that my father saved for and bought for me as Christmas present in 1984. I used to love playing all those computer games – Thrust, Sentinel, Jet Set Willy and Monty on the Run. You name it! Those early days of computing inspired me to become a computer programmer and I am still paying for that choice to this day. Only kidding!
As information technology became my profession I still played computer games in my spare time and my overall sense of well being began to suffer. I mean it is no surprise I was feeling bad if I was sitting down all day in front of a computer only to come home and sit down in front of another computer. I was out of balance. I needed to change.
What I did was this. I made a promise to myself to reduce the amount of time I played computer games and do something that was directly the opposite of what I was doing during the day. So I took up cross country running. It was physically active where computing was inactive. It was outdoors where computing was indoors. It was natural where computing was unnatural. It was the opposite and it was adding balance to my life.
Don’t think I still don’t get “out of balance” today. The tension in my shoulders and my RSI is testament to too many hours at the keyboard. I try to address this by practicing yoga or working in the garden or simply going for walks in the countryside. I am lucky that I am surrounded by a beautiful Irish landscape.
My point is that one should do the opposite of what you do during the day. If your job is very physical do something with your brain when you get home and visa-versa. If you work alone do something with people and visa-versa again!
If you want to increase your sense of well being, this simple tip will go a long way to making you feel so much better.
As always, let me know what you think.
Allen
Balance is very important. It’s the yin and yang of life that keeps us healthy and energetic. I have been learning this lesson the hard way but I hope this tip will save you the trouble and make it a little easier to learn balance. Let me explain.
My education is in information technology. Yes I admit it I am a geek at heart! To this day, I still remember my first computer a Commodore 64 that my father saved for and bought for me as Christmas present in 1984. I used to love playing all those computer games – Thrust, Sentinel, Jet Set Willy and Monty on the Run. You name it! Those early days of computing inspired me to become a computer programmer and I am still paying for that choice to this day. Only kidding!
As information technology became my profession I still played computer games in my spare time and my overall sense of well being began to suffer. I mean it is no surprise I was feeling bad if I was sitting down all day in front of a computer only to come home and sit down in front of another computer. I was out of balance. I needed to change.
What I did was this. I made a promise to myself to reduce the amount of time I played computer games and do something that was directly the opposite of what I was doing during the day. So I took up cross country running. It was physically active where computing was inactive. It was outdoors where computing was indoors. It was natural where computing was unnatural. It was the opposite and it was adding balance to my life.
Don’t think I still don’t get “out of balance” today. The tension in my shoulders and my RSI is testament to too many hours at the keyboard. I try to address this by practicing yoga or working in the garden or simply going for walks in the countryside. I am lucky that I am surrounded by a beautiful Irish landscape.
My point is that one should do the opposite of what you do during the day. If your job is very physical do something with your brain when you get home and visa-versa. If you work alone do something with people and visa-versa again!
If you want to increase your sense of well being, this simple tip will go a long way to making you feel so much better.
As always, let me know what you think.
Allen
The Attraction of Opposites – How to add balance to your daily life
Hi Everyone,
Balance is very important. It’s the yin and yang of life that keeps us healthy and energetic. I have been learning this lesson the hard way but I hope this tip will save you the trouble and make it a little easier to learn balance. Let me explain.
My education is in information technology. Yes I admit it I am a geek at heart! To this day, I still remember my first computer a Commodore 64 that my father saved for and bought for me as Christmas present in 1984. I used to love playing all those computer games – Thrust, Sentinel, Jet Set Willy and Monty on the Run. You name it! Those early days of computing inspired me to become a computer programmer and I am still paying for that choice to this day. Only kidding!
As information technology became my profession I still played computer games in my spare time and my overall sense of well being began to suffer. I mean it is no surprise I was feeling bad if I was sitting down all day in front of a computer only to come home and sit down in front of another computer. I was out of balance. I needed to change.
What I did was this. I made a promise to myself to reduce the amount of time I played computer games and do something that was directly the opposite of what I was doing during the day. So I took up cross country running. It was physically active where computing was inactive. It was outdoors where computing was indoors. It was natural where computing was unnatural. It was the opposite and it was adding balance to my life.
Don’t think I still don’t get “out of balance” today. The tension in my shoulders and my RSI is testament to too many hours at the keyboard. I try to address this by practicing yoga or working in the garden or simply going for walks in the countryside. I am lucky that I am surrounded by a beautiful Irish landscape.
My point is that one should do the opposite of what you do during the day. If your job is very physical do something with your brain when you get home and visa-versa. If you work alone do something with people and visa-versa again!
If you want to increase your sense of well being, this simple tip will go a long way to making you feel so much better.
As always, let me know what you think.
Allen
Balance is very important. It’s the yin and yang of life that keeps us healthy and energetic. I have been learning this lesson the hard way but I hope this tip will save you the trouble and make it a little easier to learn balance. Let me explain.
My education is in information technology. Yes I admit it I am a geek at heart! To this day, I still remember my first computer a Commodore 64 that my father saved for and bought for me as Christmas present in 1984. I used to love playing all those computer games – Thrust, Sentinel, Jet Set Willy and Monty on the Run. You name it! Those early days of computing inspired me to become a computer programmer and I am still paying for that choice to this day. Only kidding!
As information technology became my profession I still played computer games in my spare time and my overall sense of well being began to suffer. I mean it is no surprise I was feeling bad if I was sitting down all day in front of a computer only to come home and sit down in front of another computer. I was out of balance. I needed to change.
What I did was this. I made a promise to myself to reduce the amount of time I played computer games and do something that was directly the opposite of what I was doing during the day. So I took up cross country running. It was physically active where computing was inactive. It was outdoors where computing was indoors. It was natural where computing was unnatural. It was the opposite and it was adding balance to my life.
Don’t think I still don’t get “out of balance” today. The tension in my shoulders and my RSI is testament to too many hours at the keyboard. I try to address this by practicing yoga or working in the garden or simply going for walks in the countryside. I am lucky that I am surrounded by a beautiful Irish landscape.
My point is that one should do the opposite of what you do during the day. If your job is very physical do something with your brain when you get home and visa-versa. If you work alone do something with people and visa-versa again!
If you want to increase your sense of well being, this simple tip will go a long way to making you feel so much better.
As always, let me know what you think.
Allen
Tuesday 28 August 2007
Monday 27 August 2007
Secret #90 Ooo-La-La Principle--Part 2
In workshop settings I ask people to list their most important priorities. I often get something like this:
1. God
2. Family
3. Work
As sincere and thoughtful as this list is, it violates the Ooo-La-La Principle: Besides God, there is nothing more important than your spouse.
So what's wrong with the above list? It puts your kids on an even level of importance with your spouse. Don't get me wrong... I'm reallly found of my kids... all six of them.
However, if you list family as second priority, your spouse will lose out nearly everytime--because when it comes to giving time and energy--the kids win. But it's a mistake to have a kid-centric marriage. Why?
1. Because they're gonna be leaving... and that's NORMAL... but you will still want a marriage after the kids are gone. (You'd better not wait until after the kids are gone to invest time and energy in the marriage.)
2. In this age of high divorce rates, kids draw much of their personal security--not from how much you love them--but from how much you love your spouse... no joke! (Assignment for tonight: Make out with your spouse on the couch until the kids yell "GROSS!" Sure they'll act like you've damaged them for life, but they will KNOW that you love each other... and that's good for the kids.)
3. Kids should learn early that they are precious and important to you, but that the world does NOT revolve around them! (We're dealing with way too many adults right now who have never gotten the message that life is not about them. Let's not make any more.)
Therefore, I say, long live the Ooo-La-La Principle! Long live the spouse-centric marriage! Long live the Song of Solomon!
Are you ready to apply the Ooo-La-La Principle? Then click here to download the six message series from Tommy Nelson on the Song of Solomon.
Or, if you have iTunes and would rather download these as a podcast, type the words "Denton Bible Church" and click "Love Song" to get the entire Song of Solomon sermon series for FREE.
1. God
2. Family
3. Work
As sincere and thoughtful as this list is, it violates the Ooo-La-La Principle: Besides God, there is nothing more important than your spouse.
So what's wrong with the above list? It puts your kids on an even level of importance with your spouse. Don't get me wrong... I'm reallly found of my kids... all six of them.
However, if you list family as second priority, your spouse will lose out nearly everytime--because when it comes to giving time and energy--the kids win. But it's a mistake to have a kid-centric marriage. Why? 1. Because they're gonna be leaving... and that's NORMAL... but you will still want a marriage after the kids are gone. (You'd better not wait until after the kids are gone to invest time and energy in the marriage.)
2. In this age of high divorce rates, kids draw much of their personal security--not from how much you love them--but from how much you love your spouse... no joke! (Assignment for tonight: Make out with your spouse on the couch until the kids yell "GROSS!" Sure they'll act like you've damaged them for life, but they will KNOW that you love each other... and that's good for the kids.)
3. Kids should learn early that they are precious and important to you, but that the world does NOT revolve around them! (We're dealing with way too many adults right now who have never gotten the message that life is not about them. Let's not make any more.)
Therefore, I say, long live the Ooo-La-La Principle! Long live the spouse-centric marriage! Long live the Song of Solomon!
Are you ready to apply the Ooo-La-La Principle? Then click here to download the six message series from Tommy Nelson on the Song of Solomon.
Or, if you have iTunes and would rather download these as a podcast, type the words "Denton Bible Church" and click "Love Song" to get the entire Song of Solomon sermon series for FREE.
Saturday 25 August 2007
5 Ways To Keep Things in Perspective - Revisted
Hi there,
In the last of our summer re-runs, here is a post I know will help a lot of people out there. Well it helped me when I was writing it...
Let me know what you think!
Allen
Photo By N. Ireland Wallpapers / Desktop Backgrounds
I am going to be honest with you now dear reader. I am no Tony Robbins. That’s right! I am just somebody who is interested in self improvement and I am sharing with you self help stuff that works for me.
I don't always apply these strategies and tips (my wife would not be shocked at all by this). I get caught up with the "everydayness" of life and I can sometimes loose perspective. That’s why I am always so interested in your own opinions on what I write. I usually list out some strategies that I have found helped me and ask "What strategies can you think of?". This is as much for my own education as to get your own creative juices flowing.
Let us take this example. As I get caught up in the "everyday-ness" of life I loose perspective. I start feeling stressed out over small silly things that don't really add up to much in the big scheme of things. Sometimes it takes a serious life event like illness or bereavement to give me a good kick up the back side and realize what a great life I have after all.
So I think to myself what can I do EVERYDAY that would help me keep a healthy perspective on things? Well, as is tradition on this site, here are 5 ways I feel that will help us all keep things in perspective.
1) Look at your worries from the future.
How would your worries today be viewed by yourself as you look back in 10 years time? How would the worries look from 20, 50 or 80 years in the future. My grandmother used to say "Try not to worry, you will be dead in 100 years time." Which is very true and this doesn’t half give you perspective on your problems.
2) Compare your problems and worries to others less fortunate than yourself.
How do your problems compare with people who live in war torn countries? How do your problems compare to people facing hunger, terminal illness and poverty. Reflect on these things and this should give you some perspective on your own problems.
3) What's the worse that can happen?
Look at the worse case scenario as scary as that might be. Is the problem your facing really as bad as you think it is? It may not be? If the worse does happen at least it may not come as much of shock? This strategy only really works with less serious problems that we have exaggerated in our own minds.
4) Talk to your friends and/or family or children?
There have been countless times that I have come home from my day job feeling like the whole world was on my shoulders. I then would have a good chat with my wife and she would more than most give me her sense of perspective on the issues of the day. It is often so good to talk to someone with a sympathetic ear who have a certain distance to one's own problems. Children have a really healthy perspective on life and really bring you back to earth. I remember the time that we had to move from the area where my wife's niece.
"Why do you have to move from here?", asked the niece.
"I have to go as I have to start a new job.", replied my wife.
"Why don't you just get a job near where I live then?, pointed out the six year old. :)
5) Spend time with your pet or go walking in the nature.
My little cat at home provides a daily does of perspective for me. After a stressful day at the office there is nothing like a furry cat wanting to play with you to bring perspective back and a smile to your face. Walking in the nature can also be a good way to remain grounded. There is a park near where we live and just seeing the different wild life going about their day with no worries at all really puts things into perspective for me.
I feel I have so much to learn in the ways of keeping perspective. What ways can you suggest to me, that would help us all keep perspective in our everyday lives.
Good Luck,
Allen
In the last of our summer re-runs, here is a post I know will help a lot of people out there. Well it helped me when I was writing it...
Let me know what you think!
Allen
I am going to be honest with you now dear reader. I am no Tony Robbins. That’s right! I am just somebody who is interested in self improvement and I am sharing with you self help stuff that works for me.
I don't always apply these strategies and tips (my wife would not be shocked at all by this). I get caught up with the "everydayness" of life and I can sometimes loose perspective. That’s why I am always so interested in your own opinions on what I write. I usually list out some strategies that I have found helped me and ask "What strategies can you think of?". This is as much for my own education as to get your own creative juices flowing.
Let us take this example. As I get caught up in the "everyday-ness" of life I loose perspective. I start feeling stressed out over small silly things that don't really add up to much in the big scheme of things. Sometimes it takes a serious life event like illness or bereavement to give me a good kick up the back side and realize what a great life I have after all.
So I think to myself what can I do EVERYDAY that would help me keep a healthy perspective on things? Well, as is tradition on this site, here are 5 ways I feel that will help us all keep things in perspective.
1) Look at your worries from the future.
How would your worries today be viewed by yourself as you look back in 10 years time? How would the worries look from 20, 50 or 80 years in the future. My grandmother used to say "Try not to worry, you will be dead in 100 years time." Which is very true and this doesn’t half give you perspective on your problems.
2) Compare your problems and worries to others less fortunate than yourself.
How do your problems compare with people who live in war torn countries? How do your problems compare to people facing hunger, terminal illness and poverty. Reflect on these things and this should give you some perspective on your own problems.
3) What's the worse that can happen?
Look at the worse case scenario as scary as that might be. Is the problem your facing really as bad as you think it is? It may not be? If the worse does happen at least it may not come as much of shock? This strategy only really works with less serious problems that we have exaggerated in our own minds.
4) Talk to your friends and/or family or children?
There have been countless times that I have come home from my day job feeling like the whole world was on my shoulders. I then would have a good chat with my wife and she would more than most give me her sense of perspective on the issues of the day. It is often so good to talk to someone with a sympathetic ear who have a certain distance to one's own problems. Children have a really healthy perspective on life and really bring you back to earth. I remember the time that we had to move from the area where my wife's niece.
"Why do you have to move from here?", asked the niece.
"I have to go as I have to start a new job.", replied my wife.
"Why don't you just get a job near where I live then?, pointed out the six year old. :)
5) Spend time with your pet or go walking in the nature.
My little cat at home provides a daily does of perspective for me. After a stressful day at the office there is nothing like a furry cat wanting to play with you to bring perspective back and a smile to your face. Walking in the nature can also be a good way to remain grounded. There is a park near where we live and just seeing the different wild life going about their day with no worries at all really puts things into perspective for me.
I feel I have so much to learn in the ways of keeping perspective. What ways can you suggest to me, that would help us all keep perspective in our everyday lives.
Good Luck,
Allen
5 Ways To Keep Things in Perspective - Revisted
Hi there,
In the last of our summer re-runs, here is a post I know will help a lot of people out there. Well it helped me when I was writing it...
Let me know what you think!
Allen
Photo By N. Ireland Wallpapers / Desktop Backgrounds
I am going to be honest with you now dear reader. I am no Tony Robbins. That’s right! I am just somebody who is interested in self improvement and I am sharing with you self help stuff that works for me.
I don't always apply these strategies and tips (my wife would not be shocked at all by this). I get caught up with the "everydayness" of life and I can sometimes loose perspective. That’s why I am always so interested in your own opinions on what I write. I usually list out some strategies that I have found helped me and ask "What strategies can you think of?". This is as much for my own education as to get your own creative juices flowing.
Let us take this example. As I get caught up in the "everyday-ness" of life I loose perspective. I start feeling stressed out over small silly things that don't really add up to much in the big scheme of things. Sometimes it takes a serious life event like illness or bereavement to give me a good kick up the back side and realize what a great life I have after all.
So I think to myself what can I do EVERYDAY that would help me keep a healthy perspective on things? Well, as is tradition on this site, here are 5 ways I feel that will help us all keep things in perspective.
1) Look at your worries from the future.
How would your worries today be viewed by yourself as you look back in 10 years time? How would the worries look from 20, 50 or 80 years in the future. My grandmother used to say "Try not to worry, you will be dead in 100 years time." Which is very true and this doesn’t half give you perspective on your problems.
2) Compare your problems and worries to others less fortunate than yourself.
How do your problems compare with people who live in war torn countries? How do your problems compare to people facing hunger, terminal illness and poverty. Reflect on these things and this should give you some perspective on your own problems.
3) What's the worse that can happen?
Look at the worse case scenario as scary as that might be. Is the problem your facing really as bad as you think it is? It may not be? If the worse does happen at least it may not come as much of shock? This strategy only really works with less serious problems that we have exaggerated in our own minds.
4) Talk to your friends and/or family or children?
There have been countless times that I have come home from my day job feeling like the whole world was on my shoulders. I then would have a good chat with my wife and she would more than most give me her sense of perspective on the issues of the day. It is often so good to talk to someone with a sympathetic ear who have a certain distance to one's own problems. Children have a really healthy perspective on life and really bring you back to earth. I remember the time that we had to move from the area where my wife's niece.
"Why do you have to move from here?", asked the niece.
"I have to go as I have to start a new job.", replied my wife.
"Why don't you just get a job near where I live then?, pointed out the six year old. :)
5) Spend time with your pet or go walking in the nature.
My little cat at home provides a daily does of perspective for me. After a stressful day at the office there is nothing like a furry cat wanting to play with you to bring perspective back and a smile to your face. Walking in the nature can also be a good way to remain grounded. There is a park near where we live and just seeing the different wild life going about their day with no worries at all really puts things into perspective for me.
I feel I have so much to learn in the ways of keeping perspective. What ways can you suggest to me, that would help us all keep perspective in our everyday lives.
Good Luck,
Allen
In the last of our summer re-runs, here is a post I know will help a lot of people out there. Well it helped me when I was writing it...
Let me know what you think!
Allen
I am going to be honest with you now dear reader. I am no Tony Robbins. That’s right! I am just somebody who is interested in self improvement and I am sharing with you self help stuff that works for me.
I don't always apply these strategies and tips (my wife would not be shocked at all by this). I get caught up with the "everydayness" of life and I can sometimes loose perspective. That’s why I am always so interested in your own opinions on what I write. I usually list out some strategies that I have found helped me and ask "What strategies can you think of?". This is as much for my own education as to get your own creative juices flowing.
Let us take this example. As I get caught up in the "everyday-ness" of life I loose perspective. I start feeling stressed out over small silly things that don't really add up to much in the big scheme of things. Sometimes it takes a serious life event like illness or bereavement to give me a good kick up the back side and realize what a great life I have after all.
So I think to myself what can I do EVERYDAY that would help me keep a healthy perspective on things? Well, as is tradition on this site, here are 5 ways I feel that will help us all keep things in perspective.
1) Look at your worries from the future.
How would your worries today be viewed by yourself as you look back in 10 years time? How would the worries look from 20, 50 or 80 years in the future. My grandmother used to say "Try not to worry, you will be dead in 100 years time." Which is very true and this doesn’t half give you perspective on your problems.
2) Compare your problems and worries to others less fortunate than yourself.
How do your problems compare with people who live in war torn countries? How do your problems compare to people facing hunger, terminal illness and poverty. Reflect on these things and this should give you some perspective on your own problems.
3) What's the worse that can happen?
Look at the worse case scenario as scary as that might be. Is the problem your facing really as bad as you think it is? It may not be? If the worse does happen at least it may not come as much of shock? This strategy only really works with less serious problems that we have exaggerated in our own minds.
4) Talk to your friends and/or family or children?
There have been countless times that I have come home from my day job feeling like the whole world was on my shoulders. I then would have a good chat with my wife and she would more than most give me her sense of perspective on the issues of the day. It is often so good to talk to someone with a sympathetic ear who have a certain distance to one's own problems. Children have a really healthy perspective on life and really bring you back to earth. I remember the time that we had to move from the area where my wife's niece.
"Why do you have to move from here?", asked the niece.
"I have to go as I have to start a new job.", replied my wife.
"Why don't you just get a job near where I live then?, pointed out the six year old. :)
5) Spend time with your pet or go walking in the nature.
My little cat at home provides a daily does of perspective for me. After a stressful day at the office there is nothing like a furry cat wanting to play with you to bring perspective back and a smile to your face. Walking in the nature can also be a good way to remain grounded. There is a park near where we live and just seeing the different wild life going about their day with no worries at all really puts things into perspective for me.
I feel I have so much to learn in the ways of keeping perspective. What ways can you suggest to me, that would help us all keep perspective in our everyday lives.
Good Luck,
Allen
Friday 24 August 2007
Thursday 23 August 2007
Fill your mind with positive thoughts...
and be grateful for all the small blessings we take for granted every day! We so forget to appreciate all that is given to us without asking!
To walk, to talk, to have food on the table, to love, to be able to love, to breathe
freely and enhance your life in doing so, even to be able to use an indoor toilet!
Sounds silly, but take away the "small" blessings and our lives would echo with so
much less joy than we have now.
And remember.....DWELL on positive things. Pay attention to anything that will feed your mind with WHO you want to be, and WHAT you want out of this life. Drop the negative and push away nasty garbage that is fed to us daily.
The following is just a small blurb from an email I received this morning. I think it is worth posting:
"Sometimes we are so busy adding up our troubles that we forget to count our blessings.
Never underestimate the power of your actions. With one small gesture you can change a person's life, for better or for worse.
God puts us all in each other's lives to impact one another in some way. Look for God in others.
The best and most beautiful things cannot be seen or touched - they must be felt with the heart ~ Helen Keller
Happy moments, praise God.
Difficult moments, seek God.
Quiet moments, worship God.
Painful moments, trust God.
Every moment, thank God."
CREATE A WONDERFUL DAY!
To walk, to talk, to have food on the table, to love, to be able to love, to breathe
freely and enhance your life in doing so, even to be able to use an indoor toilet!
Sounds silly, but take away the "small" blessings and our lives would echo with so
much less joy than we have now.
And remember.....DWELL on positive things. Pay attention to anything that will feed your mind with WHO you want to be, and WHAT you want out of this life. Drop the negative and push away nasty garbage that is fed to us daily.
The following is just a small blurb from an email I received this morning. I think it is worth posting:
"Sometimes we are so busy adding up our troubles that we forget to count our blessings.
Never underestimate the power of your actions. With one small gesture you can change a person's life, for better or for worse.
God puts us all in each other's lives to impact one another in some way. Look for God in others.
The best and most beautiful things cannot be seen or touched - they must be felt with the heart ~ Helen Keller
Happy moments, praise God.
Difficult moments, seek God.
Quiet moments, worship God.
Painful moments, trust God.
Every moment, thank God."
CREATE A WONDERFUL DAY!
Wednesday 22 August 2007
Tuesday 21 August 2007
Sometimes being still is the best to manage it all
To the right of this brief post is a blue sky and cloud for you. I was going to the market after a rain and the sky was so blue and the cloud so white - I felt like I
needed to snap it......it might never happen again! ENJOY!
needed to snap it......it might never happen again! ENJOY!
10 Things to Write in Your Notebook - Revisited
Hi there,
I love my notebook and I have to say I would be a little lost without it. It is a wonderful place to vent when you don't want to burden others.
Anyway here is a re-run from last year - suggesting 10 things to write in YOUR notebook. What other things can you think of?
Allen
Photo By N. Ireland Wallpapers / Desktop Backgrounds
I have been a long time fan of using a notebook as a tool for self-improvement, as a journal or just as a place where I can do some brainstorming. I am a proud Hipster PDA and Moleskine user and with that in mind here are 10 different things I like to write in them.
1) New words that I have learnt that day.
2) Mind maps of my goals for the week, month, year.
3) Creative writing such as poems and short stories.
4) Mental stresses and tensions that I notice I feel during the day, the thoughts I felt that caused those stresses and alternative more positive thoughts in order to reduce those stresses for the future.
5) Sketches to exercise the right side of the brain.
6) Reviews of movies, music or television etc.
7) Books I want to read in the future, movies I wish to see and music I wish to listen to etc.
8) General “dear diary” prose including my observations, thoughts and feelings relating to the day.
9) Any physical tensions and what may have caused them.
10)Ideas for my blog.
What do you write in your notebook?
I love my notebook and I have to say I would be a little lost without it. It is a wonderful place to vent when you don't want to burden others.
Anyway here is a re-run from last year - suggesting 10 things to write in YOUR notebook. What other things can you think of?
Allen
I have been a long time fan of using a notebook as a tool for self-improvement, as a journal or just as a place where I can do some brainstorming. I am a proud Hipster PDA and Moleskine user and with that in mind here are 10 different things I like to write in them.
1) New words that I have learnt that day.
2) Mind maps of my goals for the week, month, year.
3) Creative writing such as poems and short stories.
4) Mental stresses and tensions that I notice I feel during the day, the thoughts I felt that caused those stresses and alternative more positive thoughts in order to reduce those stresses for the future.
5) Sketches to exercise the right side of the brain.
6) Reviews of movies, music or television etc.
7) Books I want to read in the future, movies I wish to see and music I wish to listen to etc.
8) General “dear diary” prose including my observations, thoughts and feelings relating to the day.
9) Any physical tensions and what may have caused them.
10)Ideas for my blog.
What do you write in your notebook?
10 Things to Write in Your Notebook - Revisited
Hi there,
I love my notebook and I have to say I would be a little lost without it. It is a wonderful place to vent when you don't want to burden others.
Anyway here is a re-run from last year - suggesting 10 things to write in YOUR notebook. What other things can you think of?
Allen
Photo By N. Ireland Wallpapers / Desktop Backgrounds
I have been a long time fan of using a notebook as a tool for self-improvement, as a journal or just as a place where I can do some brainstorming. I am a proud Hipster PDA and Moleskine user and with that in mind here are 10 different things I like to write in them.
1) New words that I have learnt that day.
2) Mind maps of my goals for the week, month, year.
3) Creative writing such as poems and short stories.
4) Mental stresses and tensions that I notice I feel during the day, the thoughts I felt that caused those stresses and alternative more positive thoughts in order to reduce those stresses for the future.
5) Sketches to exercise the right side of the brain.
6) Reviews of movies, music or television etc.
7) Books I want to read in the future, movies I wish to see and music I wish to listen to etc.
8) General “dear diary” prose including my observations, thoughts and feelings relating to the day.
9) Any physical tensions and what may have caused them.
10)Ideas for my blog.
What do you write in your notebook?
I love my notebook and I have to say I would be a little lost without it. It is a wonderful place to vent when you don't want to burden others.
Anyway here is a re-run from last year - suggesting 10 things to write in YOUR notebook. What other things can you think of?
Allen
I have been a long time fan of using a notebook as a tool for self-improvement, as a journal or just as a place where I can do some brainstorming. I am a proud Hipster PDA and Moleskine user and with that in mind here are 10 different things I like to write in them.
1) New words that I have learnt that day.
2) Mind maps of my goals for the week, month, year.
3) Creative writing such as poems and short stories.
4) Mental stresses and tensions that I notice I feel during the day, the thoughts I felt that caused those stresses and alternative more positive thoughts in order to reduce those stresses for the future.
5) Sketches to exercise the right side of the brain.
6) Reviews of movies, music or television etc.
7) Books I want to read in the future, movies I wish to see and music I wish to listen to etc.
8) General “dear diary” prose including my observations, thoughts and feelings relating to the day.
9) Any physical tensions and what may have caused them.
10)Ideas for my blog.
What do you write in your notebook?
Monday 20 August 2007
Friday 17 August 2007
Money that isn't there
When you are stretching to meet the demands financially, when you have unexpected expense, when you just can't figure out what you are going to do.......
Take a breath! Say a prayer. Take another breath.
You know, you can only do the best that you can. Circumstances change momentarily.
One moment I had a bit of money coming in....the next, I broke my tooth ($750.00),
have to pay a prepayment penalty ($2,800.00), have to pay back money ($400.00) the
state overpaid my hubby on unemployment last winter.....and so forth and so on!
That is lots of money for unexpected expense (THIS WEEK!). So you know what I did when I found out?
I took a breath! Said a prayer, maybe it was 20 prayers. Took another breath and thought, "Doing the best we can. It will all work out somehow. Not going to let money destroy our lives. Won't do it!"
I feel better. Truly. Try the techniques. PRACTICE them as we are creatures of habit and will get into the habit of thinking in positive terms.
Have a wonderful weekend no matter what! Love on somebody. Enjoy your life!
Your health will be better for it, your family will, and you will feel better about it all. HONEST.
Take a breath! Say a prayer. Take another breath.
You know, you can only do the best that you can. Circumstances change momentarily.
One moment I had a bit of money coming in....the next, I broke my tooth ($750.00),
have to pay a prepayment penalty ($2,800.00), have to pay back money ($400.00) the
state overpaid my hubby on unemployment last winter.....and so forth and so on!
That is lots of money for unexpected expense (THIS WEEK!). So you know what I did when I found out?
I took a breath! Said a prayer, maybe it was 20 prayers. Took another breath and thought, "Doing the best we can. It will all work out somehow. Not going to let money destroy our lives. Won't do it!"
I feel better. Truly. Try the techniques. PRACTICE them as we are creatures of habit and will get into the habit of thinking in positive terms.
Have a wonderful weekend no matter what! Love on somebody. Enjoy your life!
Your health will be better for it, your family will, and you will feel better about it all. HONEST.
Thursday 16 August 2007
Wednesday 15 August 2007
Treat Your Life Like You Are Still at School - Revisted
Hi there,
This post generated some interest last year, as I reminded everyone of how structured , well balanced and organized - their school days were. Well perhaps this does not apply to everyone but you could always imagine a perfect school day and how it might apply to you today.
Read on and let me know what you think?
Allen
Photo By N. Ireland Wallpapers / Desktop Backgrounds
I like to think back to my days at school and ponder how, in a way, the system got it right. Let me explain.
Remember how we all used to have different classes? We had science, history, English literature, religious studies, French, geography, art, music and physical education to name but a few. It got me to thinking how varied and broad the education we got was and how the varied subjects kept it interesting. You utilized different parts of your brain and lived a balanced life.
As we got older we became more and more specialized. Some of us went on to study law or medicine. Some studied engineering or science and others trained in trades such as carpentry or plumbing. We lost the balanced approach to our learning and our lives. Some of us let the physical exercise go by the road side, others stopped reading for pleasure and others even stopped learning all together.
In my humble opinion, if we model our lives on the structure of how we were educated as children, our lives would be a lot more balanced. We would constantly be learning. We would try new things and learn a wide range of skills. We would appreciate literature, music, science and history - even more now than when we were kids. We would have our own phys. ed. classes were we wouldn't have to feel like we are competing with everyone else - it would be enough just to BE active. Here are some of my tips on how we would re-capture that spark of life that was learning and being educated.
1) Create your own time table for the week.
Make time for learning. Schedule in some time for learning or reading something new. Schedule in some time for exercise or listening to some music you wouldn’t normally listen to. If you actually make the effort to schedule like your school used to do for you - you might actually find the time to learn.
2) Make your own physical education class.
Some of the sports we were made to do - I hated! I also hated gym class as I was never very good compared to my classmates. Well you know what? Now that you are an adult you don't have to compare yourself to others. You can pick physical activities and sports that you enjoy and that you might actually stick with!
3) Make your own art or music class.
Again you don't need to worry what other people think of your painting, sketching or drawing. Do it for you and let your creativity flow. We all have it! Learn any musical instrument you want. I have started learning guitar again and it doesn’t matter that I can only play a few chords. I can play Johnny Cash’s “A boy named Sue” as is only three chords!
4) Make up your own syllabus.
You are the school principal. You are the head coach, the English, history or science teacher. You make up a learning time table that suits you. It can be as heavy or light a schedule as you want. Imaging the fun you could have had if you could do that in school!
5) Keep it varied and keep it balanced.
Keep your new school time table varied and balanced. Leave time for physical exercise and relaxation. Keep the subjects you choose varied so you use different parts of your brain i.e. the logical part or the artistic part for example. Most of all have fun with it!
I hope this helps to inspire you to begin a path of life long learning. I really believe if you live your life this way you will start living your life to the full!
Good Luck,
Allen
This post generated some interest last year, as I reminded everyone of how structured , well balanced and organized - their school days were. Well perhaps this does not apply to everyone but you could always imagine a perfect school day and how it might apply to you today.
Read on and let me know what you think?
Allen
I like to think back to my days at school and ponder how, in a way, the system got it right. Let me explain.
Remember how we all used to have different classes? We had science, history, English literature, religious studies, French, geography, art, music and physical education to name but a few. It got me to thinking how varied and broad the education we got was and how the varied subjects kept it interesting. You utilized different parts of your brain and lived a balanced life.
As we got older we became more and more specialized. Some of us went on to study law or medicine. Some studied engineering or science and others trained in trades such as carpentry or plumbing. We lost the balanced approach to our learning and our lives. Some of us let the physical exercise go by the road side, others stopped reading for pleasure and others even stopped learning all together.
In my humble opinion, if we model our lives on the structure of how we were educated as children, our lives would be a lot more balanced. We would constantly be learning. We would try new things and learn a wide range of skills. We would appreciate literature, music, science and history - even more now than when we were kids. We would have our own phys. ed. classes were we wouldn't have to feel like we are competing with everyone else - it would be enough just to BE active. Here are some of my tips on how we would re-capture that spark of life that was learning and being educated.
1) Create your own time table for the week.
Make time for learning. Schedule in some time for learning or reading something new. Schedule in some time for exercise or listening to some music you wouldn’t normally listen to. If you actually make the effort to schedule like your school used to do for you - you might actually find the time to learn.
2) Make your own physical education class.
Some of the sports we were made to do - I hated! I also hated gym class as I was never very good compared to my classmates. Well you know what? Now that you are an adult you don't have to compare yourself to others. You can pick physical activities and sports that you enjoy and that you might actually stick with!
3) Make your own art or music class.
Again you don't need to worry what other people think of your painting, sketching or drawing. Do it for you and let your creativity flow. We all have it! Learn any musical instrument you want. I have started learning guitar again and it doesn’t matter that I can only play a few chords. I can play Johnny Cash’s “A boy named Sue” as is only three chords!
4) Make up your own syllabus.
You are the school principal. You are the head coach, the English, history or science teacher. You make up a learning time table that suits you. It can be as heavy or light a schedule as you want. Imaging the fun you could have had if you could do that in school!
5) Keep it varied and keep it balanced.
Keep your new school time table varied and balanced. Leave time for physical exercise and relaxation. Keep the subjects you choose varied so you use different parts of your brain i.e. the logical part or the artistic part for example. Most of all have fun with it!
I hope this helps to inspire you to begin a path of life long learning. I really believe if you live your life this way you will start living your life to the full!
Good Luck,
Allen
Treat Your Life Like You Are Still at School - Revisted
Hi there,
This post generated some interest last year, as I reminded everyone of how structured , well balanced and organized - their school days were. Well perhaps this does not apply to everyone but you could always imagine a perfect school day and how it might apply to you today.
Read on and let me know what you think?
Allen
Photo By N. Ireland Wallpapers / Desktop Backgrounds
I like to think back to my days at school and ponder how, in a way, the system got it right. Let me explain.
Remember how we all used to have different classes? We had science, history, English literature, religious studies, French, geography, art, music and physical education to name but a few. It got me to thinking how varied and broad the education we got was and how the varied subjects kept it interesting. You utilized different parts of your brain and lived a balanced life.
As we got older we became more and more specialized. Some of us went on to study law or medicine. Some studied engineering or science and others trained in trades such as carpentry or plumbing. We lost the balanced approach to our learning and our lives. Some of us let the physical exercise go by the road side, others stopped reading for pleasure and others even stopped learning all together.
In my humble opinion, if we model our lives on the structure of how we were educated as children, our lives would be a lot more balanced. We would constantly be learning. We would try new things and learn a wide range of skills. We would appreciate literature, music, science and history - even more now than when we were kids. We would have our own phys. ed. classes were we wouldn't have to feel like we are competing with everyone else - it would be enough just to BE active. Here are some of my tips on how we would re-capture that spark of life that was learning and being educated.
1) Create your own time table for the week.
Make time for learning. Schedule in some time for learning or reading something new. Schedule in some time for exercise or listening to some music you wouldn’t normally listen to. If you actually make the effort to schedule like your school used to do for you - you might actually find the time to learn.
2) Make your own physical education class.
Some of the sports we were made to do - I hated! I also hated gym class as I was never very good compared to my classmates. Well you know what? Now that you are an adult you don't have to compare yourself to others. You can pick physical activities and sports that you enjoy and that you might actually stick with!
3) Make your own art or music class.
Again you don't need to worry what other people think of your painting, sketching or drawing. Do it for you and let your creativity flow. We all have it! Learn any musical instrument you want. I have started learning guitar again and it doesn’t matter that I can only play a few chords. I can play Johnny Cash’s “A boy named Sue” as is only three chords!
4) Make up your own syllabus.
You are the school principal. You are the head coach, the English, history or science teacher. You make up a learning time table that suits you. It can be as heavy or light a schedule as you want. Imaging the fun you could have had if you could do that in school!
5) Keep it varied and keep it balanced.
Keep your new school time table varied and balanced. Leave time for physical exercise and relaxation. Keep the subjects you choose varied so you use different parts of your brain i.e. the logical part or the artistic part for example. Most of all have fun with it!
I hope this helps to inspire you to begin a path of life long learning. I really believe if you live your life this way you will start living your life to the full!
Good Luck,
Allen
This post generated some interest last year, as I reminded everyone of how structured , well balanced and organized - their school days were. Well perhaps this does not apply to everyone but you could always imagine a perfect school day and how it might apply to you today.
Read on and let me know what you think?
Allen
I like to think back to my days at school and ponder how, in a way, the system got it right. Let me explain.
Remember how we all used to have different classes? We had science, history, English literature, religious studies, French, geography, art, music and physical education to name but a few. It got me to thinking how varied and broad the education we got was and how the varied subjects kept it interesting. You utilized different parts of your brain and lived a balanced life.
As we got older we became more and more specialized. Some of us went on to study law or medicine. Some studied engineering or science and others trained in trades such as carpentry or plumbing. We lost the balanced approach to our learning and our lives. Some of us let the physical exercise go by the road side, others stopped reading for pleasure and others even stopped learning all together.
In my humble opinion, if we model our lives on the structure of how we were educated as children, our lives would be a lot more balanced. We would constantly be learning. We would try new things and learn a wide range of skills. We would appreciate literature, music, science and history - even more now than when we were kids. We would have our own phys. ed. classes were we wouldn't have to feel like we are competing with everyone else - it would be enough just to BE active. Here are some of my tips on how we would re-capture that spark of life that was learning and being educated.
1) Create your own time table for the week.
Make time for learning. Schedule in some time for learning or reading something new. Schedule in some time for exercise or listening to some music you wouldn’t normally listen to. If you actually make the effort to schedule like your school used to do for you - you might actually find the time to learn.
2) Make your own physical education class.
Some of the sports we were made to do - I hated! I also hated gym class as I was never very good compared to my classmates. Well you know what? Now that you are an adult you don't have to compare yourself to others. You can pick physical activities and sports that you enjoy and that you might actually stick with!
3) Make your own art or music class.
Again you don't need to worry what other people think of your painting, sketching or drawing. Do it for you and let your creativity flow. We all have it! Learn any musical instrument you want. I have started learning guitar again and it doesn’t matter that I can only play a few chords. I can play Johnny Cash’s “A boy named Sue” as is only three chords!
4) Make up your own syllabus.
You are the school principal. You are the head coach, the English, history or science teacher. You make up a learning time table that suits you. It can be as heavy or light a schedule as you want. Imaging the fun you could have had if you could do that in school!
5) Keep it varied and keep it balanced.
Keep your new school time table varied and balanced. Leave time for physical exercise and relaxation. Keep the subjects you choose varied so you use different parts of your brain i.e. the logical part or the artistic part for example. Most of all have fun with it!
I hope this helps to inspire you to begin a path of life long learning. I really believe if you live your life this way you will start living your life to the full!
Good Luck,
Allen
Tuesday 14 August 2007
Urgent for all parents!
www.ToyRecall.biz is just one site to check. Mattel is recalling millions of toys that are potentially deadly for the little ones. You've probably heard, but just in case,
please check this out for the safety of your children!
Wasn't going to post, but our children are so helpless and dependent on our decisions...protect them, and God bless them!
please check this out for the safety of your children!
Wasn't going to post, but our children are so helpless and dependent on our decisions...protect them, and God bless them!
Whatever you are doing right now............
TAKE A 60 SECOND BREAK TO REFRESH AND REGENERATE!
Sit back from the desk. Take a deep breath inhaling though the nose, and exhaling through the mouth. Do it again and think: "Whatever my challenge, I will approach it refreshed in one minute, knowing I will do the best I can."
Take another breath. This time as you exhale, visualize all the negative thoughts you may harbor, and all the past anger or disapointment you may feel - flying out your fingertips into oblivion.
Now stretch your arms up overhead, clasping your hands together, as you lean back in your chair slightly. Put your hands behind your head and gently lift the head elongating, the neck and holding the weight of your head in your hands. Release.
Wiggle your toes and fingers and take another breath! Point your toes away from you. Press the heels away from you. Do this several times.
Roll your wrists one direction, then the opposite direction. Now blink your eyes several times.
If you NEED to use the restroom DON'T HOLD IT AND WAIT! THAT IS TERRIBLE FOR YOUR BODY. GO NOW.
Other wise, one more mindful breath and smile (No particular reason - it just feels good.) You could do this maybe once an hour. That's only 8 times in 8 hours....only 8 minutes. You are worth it and you will be better for it!
I won't be posting for a couple of days, so in the meantime - ENJOY your work, enjoy your play, and PLEASE enjoy each moment of every day. Time is accelerating - make it precious time!
Sit back from the desk. Take a deep breath inhaling though the nose, and exhaling through the mouth. Do it again and think: "Whatever my challenge, I will approach it refreshed in one minute, knowing I will do the best I can."
Take another breath. This time as you exhale, visualize all the negative thoughts you may harbor, and all the past anger or disapointment you may feel - flying out your fingertips into oblivion.
Now stretch your arms up overhead, clasping your hands together, as you lean back in your chair slightly. Put your hands behind your head and gently lift the head elongating, the neck and holding the weight of your head in your hands. Release.
Wiggle your toes and fingers and take another breath! Point your toes away from you. Press the heels away from you. Do this several times.
Roll your wrists one direction, then the opposite direction. Now blink your eyes several times.
If you NEED to use the restroom DON'T HOLD IT AND WAIT! THAT IS TERRIBLE FOR YOUR BODY. GO NOW.
Other wise, one more mindful breath and smile (No particular reason - it just feels good.) You could do this maybe once an hour. That's only 8 times in 8 hours....only 8 minutes. You are worth it and you will be better for it!
I won't be posting for a couple of days, so in the meantime - ENJOY your work, enjoy your play, and PLEASE enjoy each moment of every day. Time is accelerating - make it precious time!
Secret #89 Ooo-La-La Principle--Part 1
Even if you're a casual reader of this blog, you know that this blog is NOT your ordinary how-to-squeeze-more-into-your-already-overloaded-life time management blog.This blog is about the adventure of figuring out what is most important in life--then focusing our energies on living for that which is TRULY most important. I encourage you to smile and wave in defiance at all the lesser things screaming for your attention (even it if makes people unhappy--including church people and relatives)--and do that which is most important. (It feels good too.)
That brings me to the Ooo-La-La Principle. This principle begins with understanding that besides God, there is nothing more important than your spouse. We know this. We say this. But we obviously aren't living it. Christian marriages are falling apart at about the same pathetic rate as non-Christian marriages. Many of us who remain married aren't exactly good advertisement for the God-ordained institution of marriage (I'm speaking directly to myself here too). But the Ooo-La-La Principle doesn't stop at acknowledging the importance of prioritizing our spouse. (Anyone can give lip service.) Instead, the Ooo-La-La Principle proactively plans for time and connection together as a couple. Yep, make no mistake about it. The Ooo-La-La Principle is all about stoking the fires of romance in your relationship--you know what I'm talking about--that whole lovey dovey thing that leaves most marriages about the time of the wedding.
And make no mistake about it--this is a time management issue! (Gasps of shock!)Contrary to intiution, the Ooo-La-La Principle will REQUIRE two very important proactive action steps on your part: 1) time, and 2) work. Yep--it takes time and work to be a Lance Romance. (Not what you thought... is it?)
For those who dare to proactively prioritize their spouse--and give the time and work necessary, the Ooo-La-La Principle promises great benefits. And to help you step into those benefits, I want to pass along a FREE resource to help you get started on the Ooo-La-La journey with your spouse.
It's Free!
I first heard about Tommy Nelson's excellent sermon series on The Song of Solomon by listening to Dr. James Dobson's Focus on the Family radio program a few years ago. I was immediately intrigued and loved the message I heard. We'll I recently searched for the complete series of six messages--and discovered they ALL can be downloaded for FREE! (Thank you God and Tommy Nelson.) So I invite you to use the links below to download the six messages and listen to them yourself. Then listen to them with your spouse--and TALK about how they might apply to your marriage (such a radical idea). Yes--it's a virtual marriage retreat... only better... because the topic is The Song of Solomon... and it's only you and your spouse! {Note to any single folks: I think a listen to these messages would be VERY helpful to you as well--as the the first two messages are "The Art of Attraction" and the "Art of Dating."}
So--are you ready to apply the Ooo-La-La Principle? Then click here to download the six message series from Tommy Nelson on the Song of Solomon.
Or, if you have iTunes and would rather download these as a podcast, type the words "Denton Bible Church" and click "Love Song" to get the entire Song of Solomon sermon series for FREE.
Monday 13 August 2007
How To Handle Difficult People - Revisited
Channel your hero. That was the point of this post. You can use different heroes depending on the situation you are in.
Anyway, read on and let me know what you think...
Allen
There is no avoiding difficult people and this especially applies to the work environment. Here is a tip that I find works for me and I would be interested in your feedback on this.
When dealing with difficult people imagine how one of your role models or heroes would deal with them. At this stage I am hoping you have positive role models!
I could imagine how would Gandhi deal with this person? Or how would the Dalai Lama or Bishop Desmond Tutu deal with this person? If you are a spiritual person you could ask yourself how would Jesus, Buddha or Mohammed deal with this? You could even use fictional characters as role models. In my case I would use Jean Luc Picard or Palmer Joss (from Contact) or Shepherd Book(from Firefly).
Using positive role models is a useful way of gaining perspective and learning patience and tolerance. Have a go with this and let me know how you get on!
Bye for now,
Allen
Anyway, read on and let me know what you think...
Allen
There is no avoiding difficult people and this especially applies to the work environment. Here is a tip that I find works for me and I would be interested in your feedback on this.
When dealing with difficult people imagine how one of your role models or heroes would deal with them. At this stage I am hoping you have positive role models!
I could imagine how would Gandhi deal with this person? Or how would the Dalai Lama or Bishop Desmond Tutu deal with this person? If you are a spiritual person you could ask yourself how would Jesus, Buddha or Mohammed deal with this? You could even use fictional characters as role models. In my case I would use Jean Luc Picard or Palmer Joss (from Contact) or Shepherd Book(from Firefly).
Using positive role models is a useful way of gaining perspective and learning patience and tolerance. Have a go with this and let me know how you get on!
Bye for now,
Allen
How To Handle Difficult People - Revisited
Channel your hero. That was the point of this post. You can use different heroes depending on the situation you are in.
Anyway, read on and let me know what you think...
Allen
There is no avoiding difficult people and this especially applies to the work environment. Here is a tip that I find works for me and I would be interested in your feedback on this.
When dealing with difficult people imagine how one of your role models or heroes would deal with them. At this stage I am hoping you have positive role models!
I could imagine how would Gandhi deal with this person? Or how would the Dalai Lama or Bishop Desmond Tutu deal with this person? If you are a spiritual person you could ask yourself how would Jesus, Buddha or Mohammed deal with this? You could even use fictional characters as role models. In my case I would use Jean Luc Picard or Palmer Joss (from Contact) or Shepherd Book(from Firefly).
Using positive role models is a useful way of gaining perspective and learning patience and tolerance. Have a go with this and let me know how you get on!
Bye for now,
Allen
Anyway, read on and let me know what you think...
Allen
There is no avoiding difficult people and this especially applies to the work environment. Here is a tip that I find works for me and I would be interested in your feedback on this.
When dealing with difficult people imagine how one of your role models or heroes would deal with them. At this stage I am hoping you have positive role models!
I could imagine how would Gandhi deal with this person? Or how would the Dalai Lama or Bishop Desmond Tutu deal with this person? If you are a spiritual person you could ask yourself how would Jesus, Buddha or Mohammed deal with this? You could even use fictional characters as role models. In my case I would use Jean Luc Picard or Palmer Joss (from Contact) or Shepherd Book(from Firefly).
Using positive role models is a useful way of gaining perspective and learning patience and tolerance. Have a go with this and let me know how you get on!
Bye for now,
Allen
Sunday 12 August 2007
Truth that does not waiver
“The relation that exists between the mind and body is very intimate. When one is affected, the other sympathizes. The condition of the mind affects the health to a far greater degree than many realize. Many of the diseases from which men suffer are the result of mental depression. Grief, anxiety, discontent, remorse, guilt, distrust, all tend to break down the life forces and to invite decay and death....
Courage, hope, faith, sympathy, love, promote health and prolong life. A contented mind, a cheerful spirit, is health to the body and strength to the soul.”
Ellen G. White
1827-1915
Courage, hope, faith, sympathy, love, promote health and prolong life. A contented mind, a cheerful spirit, is health to the body and strength to the soul.”
Ellen G. White
1827-1915
Saturday 11 August 2007
Tale of Two Wolves
The first exercise I teach, regardless if I am teaching high intensity aerobics, low-key exercise, relaxation, or even dance....is to EXERCISE THE MIND. These two short tales go hand
in hand with using our brains and finding magic can happen to each of us, if we just EXERCISE our powers and believe! CREATE a wonderful weekend! I care:) Thank you for sharing my sweet spiritual friend and sister - Lynn.
-Native American-
A grandfather was telling his grandson, "There is a conflict
inside of me and in every one of us. Two wolves live within me.
One wolf is jealous, angry, covetous, rude, disrespectful,
lazy, unkind, resentful. The other wolf is kind, loving,
grateful, compassionate, happy, helpful. They are battling
within each of us"
The grandson asks, "Which one will win?"
The grandfather thoughtfully answers, "The one you feed."
**************************************************************
Tale of unknown origin
A man who had been traveling a long way approaches the
gate to a small village. Sitting outside the gate is an
old, wrinkled woman.The man asks the woman "What kind of
people will I find here in this village?"
The woman answers "What kind of people did you find in
the last village you were in?" The man said, "They were
terrible people. Greedy, obnoxious, hateful, rude,
Thieves all of them. It was awful." "You will find the same
sort of people here then" she answered. And the man hung his
head, turned around and walked away.
Later that day another man who had also been traveling a
long way approaches the same gate to the same village
and sees the same old woman sitting outside the
gate. He asks, "What kind of people will I find in this
village?"
The woman in turns asks, "What kind of people did you
find in the last village you lived?" He said "They were
wonderful people! Kind, generous, thoughtful, helpful, loving
people. I hated having to leave."
The woman looked at the man and answered
"Then you will find the same sort of people here."
And the man happily walked through the gate into the
village.
Which wolf do you feed daily? What expectations of people
do you have?
in hand with using our brains and finding magic can happen to each of us, if we just EXERCISE our powers and believe! CREATE a wonderful weekend! I care:) Thank you for sharing my sweet spiritual friend and sister - Lynn.
-Native American-
A grandfather was telling his grandson, "There is a conflict
inside of me and in every one of us. Two wolves live within me.
One wolf is jealous, angry, covetous, rude, disrespectful,
lazy, unkind, resentful. The other wolf is kind, loving,
grateful, compassionate, happy, helpful. They are battling
within each of us"
The grandson asks, "Which one will win?"
The grandfather thoughtfully answers, "The one you feed."
**************************************************************
Tale of unknown origin
A man who had been traveling a long way approaches the
gate to a small village. Sitting outside the gate is an
old, wrinkled woman.The man asks the woman "What kind of
people will I find here in this village?"
The woman answers "What kind of people did you find in
the last village you were in?" The man said, "They were
terrible people. Greedy, obnoxious, hateful, rude,
Thieves all of them. It was awful." "You will find the same
sort of people here then" she answered. And the man hung his
head, turned around and walked away.
Later that day another man who had also been traveling a
long way approaches the same gate to the same village
and sees the same old woman sitting outside the
gate. He asks, "What kind of people will I find in this
village?"
The woman in turns asks, "What kind of people did you
find in the last village you lived?" He said "They were
wonderful people! Kind, generous, thoughtful, helpful, loving
people. I hated having to leave."
The woman looked at the man and answered
"Then you will find the same sort of people here."
And the man happily walked through the gate into the
village.
Which wolf do you feed daily? What expectations of people
do you have?
Friday 10 August 2007
10 Ways to Think For Yourself - Revisited
Yes I can see the irony. Here was a post telling you how to think for yourself. :-) Well I hope I dont "tell" anyone how to do anything but rather offer techniques that I have found that worked for me.
Enjoy,
Allen
Photo By N. Ireland Wallpapers / Desktop Backgrounds
Thinking for yourself is one of those skills I had to learn as I got older. I had a really bad habit of blindly following what an authority figure would say without ever questioning the reasoning behind it. Another example would be doing something a certain way as this has always been the way it has been done. Well I have put together some strategies here that I think will help you develop your thought processes, to think in a more independent fashion. If you can think of any more methods or strategies, let me know by submitting a comment.
1) If in doubt - ask a question.
Don't be afraid to question things. Don't be afraid to offer a question even though other people in your peer group have not questioned before.
2) Place experience over authority.
If one reflects upon what the authority figure is conveying to you, does it pan out with your real life experience? For example, if someone tells you that all red heads are moody - have you experienced this in your life?
3) Understand People.
Does the person communicating with you have an agenda that might be influencing what they are telling you? What is motivating this person? Why do you think they think this way?
4) Don't feel you have to follow the crowd.
Remember the old adage - if Johnny put his hand in the fire does that mean you have to do that too?
5) Trust your feelings.
Trusting your "gut instinct" about something is often an over looked trait. If something does not feel right to you there is probably something wrong (or at least something seriously flawed) with what you are being told.
6) Remain calm.
Remaining calm and collected will help you remain objective and help you to think clearly. If you get caught up in a heated debated and loose your cool, your capacity for rational thinking is diminished.
7) Gather the facts.
Like any good thinker would do - gather all the facts before making a judgment. Ask yourself do you have all the facts? Are there gaps in your knowledge that is keeping me from the truth or from the solution to a problem?
8) Look at Things from Different Perspectives.
If you are trying to solve a problem - try coming at it in a different way. If one way hasn’t worked for you - try a different one! Try and see ideas or concepts from different perspectives. For example, would someone growing up in Japan think the same way about a subject as someone from Ireland?
9) Cultivate Empathy.
It is easier to understand why people think the way they do if you understand their situation. If I said "All red heads are moody and I don't want anything to do with them!" - there could be a reason for me to be saying this. Maybe I was bullied by a red head in school for example. Empathizing with people helps you understand that you may have a different opinion about something but that’s OK!
10) Be Brave.
It takes courage to stand up and say “I don't agree with you." Be kind to yourself, be patient and don't give up. If you want to learn how to think more independently -it does take time.
Oh and before I go - don't forget to question everything I have just told you. :)
Good luck!
Allen
Enjoy,
Allen
Thinking for yourself is one of those skills I had to learn as I got older. I had a really bad habit of blindly following what an authority figure would say without ever questioning the reasoning behind it. Another example would be doing something a certain way as this has always been the way it has been done. Well I have put together some strategies here that I think will help you develop your thought processes, to think in a more independent fashion. If you can think of any more methods or strategies, let me know by submitting a comment.
1) If in doubt - ask a question.
Don't be afraid to question things. Don't be afraid to offer a question even though other people in your peer group have not questioned before.
2) Place experience over authority.
If one reflects upon what the authority figure is conveying to you, does it pan out with your real life experience? For example, if someone tells you that all red heads are moody - have you experienced this in your life?
3) Understand People.
Does the person communicating with you have an agenda that might be influencing what they are telling you? What is motivating this person? Why do you think they think this way?
4) Don't feel you have to follow the crowd.
Remember the old adage - if Johnny put his hand in the fire does that mean you have to do that too?
5) Trust your feelings.
Trusting your "gut instinct" about something is often an over looked trait. If something does not feel right to you there is probably something wrong (or at least something seriously flawed) with what you are being told.
6) Remain calm.
Remaining calm and collected will help you remain objective and help you to think clearly. If you get caught up in a heated debated and loose your cool, your capacity for rational thinking is diminished.
7) Gather the facts.
Like any good thinker would do - gather all the facts before making a judgment. Ask yourself do you have all the facts? Are there gaps in your knowledge that is keeping me from the truth or from the solution to a problem?
8) Look at Things from Different Perspectives.
If you are trying to solve a problem - try coming at it in a different way. If one way hasn’t worked for you - try a different one! Try and see ideas or concepts from different perspectives. For example, would someone growing up in Japan think the same way about a subject as someone from Ireland?
9) Cultivate Empathy.
It is easier to understand why people think the way they do if you understand their situation. If I said "All red heads are moody and I don't want anything to do with them!" - there could be a reason for me to be saying this. Maybe I was bullied by a red head in school for example. Empathizing with people helps you understand that you may have a different opinion about something but that’s OK!
10) Be Brave.
It takes courage to stand up and say “I don't agree with you." Be kind to yourself, be patient and don't give up. If you want to learn how to think more independently -it does take time.
Oh and before I go - don't forget to question everything I have just told you. :)
Good luck!
Allen
10 Ways to Think For Yourself - Revisited
Yes I can see the irony. Here was a post telling you how to think for yourself. :-) Well I hope I dont "tell" anyone how to do anything but rather offer techniques that I have found that worked for me.
Enjoy,
Allen
Photo By N. Ireland Wallpapers / Desktop Backgrounds
Thinking for yourself is one of those skills I had to learn as I got older. I had a really bad habit of blindly following what an authority figure would say without ever questioning the reasoning behind it. Another example would be doing something a certain way as this has always been the way it has been done. Well I have put together some strategies here that I think will help you develop your thought processes, to think in a more independent fashion. If you can think of any more methods or strategies, let me know by submitting a comment.
1) If in doubt - ask a question.
Don't be afraid to question things. Don't be afraid to offer a question even though other people in your peer group have not questioned before.
2) Place experience over authority.
If one reflects upon what the authority figure is conveying to you, does it pan out with your real life experience? For example, if someone tells you that all red heads are moody - have you experienced this in your life?
3) Understand People.
Does the person communicating with you have an agenda that might be influencing what they are telling you? What is motivating this person? Why do you think they think this way?
4) Don't feel you have to follow the crowd.
Remember the old adage - if Johnny put his hand in the fire does that mean you have to do that too?
5) Trust your feelings.
Trusting your "gut instinct" about something is often an over looked trait. If something does not feel right to you there is probably something wrong (or at least something seriously flawed) with what you are being told.
6) Remain calm.
Remaining calm and collected will help you remain objective and help you to think clearly. If you get caught up in a heated debated and loose your cool, your capacity for rational thinking is diminished.
7) Gather the facts.
Like any good thinker would do - gather all the facts before making a judgment. Ask yourself do you have all the facts? Are there gaps in your knowledge that is keeping me from the truth or from the solution to a problem?
8) Look at Things from Different Perspectives.
If you are trying to solve a problem - try coming at it in a different way. If one way hasn’t worked for you - try a different one! Try and see ideas or concepts from different perspectives. For example, would someone growing up in Japan think the same way about a subject as someone from Ireland?
9) Cultivate Empathy.
It is easier to understand why people think the way they do if you understand their situation. If I said "All red heads are moody and I don't want anything to do with them!" - there could be a reason for me to be saying this. Maybe I was bullied by a red head in school for example. Empathizing with people helps you understand that you may have a different opinion about something but that’s OK!
10) Be Brave.
It takes courage to stand up and say “I don't agree with you." Be kind to yourself, be patient and don't give up. If you want to learn how to think more independently -it does take time.
Oh and before I go - don't forget to question everything I have just told you. :)
Good luck!
Allen
Enjoy,
Allen
Thinking for yourself is one of those skills I had to learn as I got older. I had a really bad habit of blindly following what an authority figure would say without ever questioning the reasoning behind it. Another example would be doing something a certain way as this has always been the way it has been done. Well I have put together some strategies here that I think will help you develop your thought processes, to think in a more independent fashion. If you can think of any more methods or strategies, let me know by submitting a comment.
1) If in doubt - ask a question.
Don't be afraid to question things. Don't be afraid to offer a question even though other people in your peer group have not questioned before.
2) Place experience over authority.
If one reflects upon what the authority figure is conveying to you, does it pan out with your real life experience? For example, if someone tells you that all red heads are moody - have you experienced this in your life?
3) Understand People.
Does the person communicating with you have an agenda that might be influencing what they are telling you? What is motivating this person? Why do you think they think this way?
4) Don't feel you have to follow the crowd.
Remember the old adage - if Johnny put his hand in the fire does that mean you have to do that too?
5) Trust your feelings.
Trusting your "gut instinct" about something is often an over looked trait. If something does not feel right to you there is probably something wrong (or at least something seriously flawed) with what you are being told.
6) Remain calm.
Remaining calm and collected will help you remain objective and help you to think clearly. If you get caught up in a heated debated and loose your cool, your capacity for rational thinking is diminished.
7) Gather the facts.
Like any good thinker would do - gather all the facts before making a judgment. Ask yourself do you have all the facts? Are there gaps in your knowledge that is keeping me from the truth or from the solution to a problem?
8) Look at Things from Different Perspectives.
If you are trying to solve a problem - try coming at it in a different way. If one way hasn’t worked for you - try a different one! Try and see ideas or concepts from different perspectives. For example, would someone growing up in Japan think the same way about a subject as someone from Ireland?
9) Cultivate Empathy.
It is easier to understand why people think the way they do if you understand their situation. If I said "All red heads are moody and I don't want anything to do with them!" - there could be a reason for me to be saying this. Maybe I was bullied by a red head in school for example. Empathizing with people helps you understand that you may have a different opinion about something but that’s OK!
10) Be Brave.
It takes courage to stand up and say “I don't agree with you." Be kind to yourself, be patient and don't give up. If you want to learn how to think more independently -it does take time.
Oh and before I go - don't forget to question everything I have just told you. :)
Good luck!
Allen
Thursday 9 August 2007
10 Tips on Leading a Balanced Life - Revisted.
Part two of the summer re-runs of popular posts is this one about a balanced life. Like all the life hacks and tips I write about, these are things I strive towards. I never pretend to have it all figured out by any means.
As usual let me know what you think..
Allen
Photo By N. Ireland Wallpapers / Desktop Backgrounds
Balance is important. When one aspect of our life becomes too dominant we loose that balance and experience conflict and unhappiness. It’s not easy and sometimes it feels like a juggling match but if we develop some healthy habits it is possible to achieve balance in a relaxed and calm way. Don’t forget the amount of time you devote to each aspect of your life will undergo fluctuation. It’s all a matter of realizing the natural flow of life and giving the right amount of attention to all aspects of our day to day living. So here I present my own ten tips on leading a balanced life.
1) Go home from work on time.
You need to look after yourself. Contrary to what the current culture will tell you – we are not machines. You need a healthy balance between the time you spend at work and the time you spend outside the work place. You need to be constantly reminded that there is more to life than work. (Although there will be some times you might have to work late in case of emergencies but they should be the exceptions and not the norm.)
2) Don’t be a yes person.
This follows on from point number one. You will find it easier to go home on time when you don’t agree to every single thing that is asked of you. Your inbox will never be empty – only agree to things that you can manage and that do not interfere with point 1.
3) Go to bed and get up at the same time everyday.
Treat this as your foundation for a more balanced life. Creating a natural rhythm to your day will go a long way to creating balance in your life. You will feel more rested and grounded in reality and less overwhelmed by events that happen during the day.
4) Slow down.
Consciously slow down. Walk slower, drive slower, talk slower. Notice things as you walk. Notice the tree that you pass by each day on the way to work and how it changes color with the seasons. Notice the fresh smell of morning and feel the warm sunshine on your face during the day (or the rain pelting of your face if you live in Ireland) :). Become more aware and awake in general and take your time over your day. Practice some form of daily relaxation exercise such as meditation, yoga or progressive muscle relaxation. Slow down - it is not a race you know!
5) Don’t buy into the culture around you if you don’t want to.
24-7 News (mostly bad news), the pressures of work, the go go go of modern life – this is what the media likes to tell us about our culture. That is not MY culture. I don’t agree with it and I don’t buy it. I am a human being and unique with my own feelings and needs – I don’t have to buy into something if it violates my values.
6) Create your own sub-culture involving your friends and family.
Surround yourself with people you like and who like you back. Create you own subculture of activities. Leave the couch and TV and go out and meet people be it through reading groups, charity work, nature rambles and more!
7) Recognize you have the right to be healthier than those around you.
Again don’t buy into the bad habits of other people. If everyone else around you drink too much coffee – that doesn’t mean you have to. If your colleagues at work love to eat fried foods at lunch – that doesn’t mean you have to. If your peers don’t bother to exercise that doesn’t mean you have to. Look after yourself!
8) Do something meaningful with your spare time.
Volunteer and do something that suits your personality. Not everyone can have the qualities that are required to go visit and talk to the elderly for example. Find out what skills you have (everyone has them!) and see how you could use those skills to help others.
9) Let go of the need to buy the next big thing.
If you let go of the cravings to keep consuming and buying things you don’t need then you might not feel you have to work such long hours. Why do you need that car? Is it something you really NEED or just something you think would be nice to have. Don’t forget about all those items you bought and you thought they were great to begin with. You were feeling empty and you thought that this might make your life more exciting or make you feel a bit better. Then the novelty wears off and you have that empty feeling inside that you had before you bought it in the first place. Why do you feel you need to keep up with the neighbors? If they get a big 4 X 4 does that mean you have to? Ask yourself why you feel you have to do that?
10) Develop compassion, patience and tolerance for your fellow people.
Happiness comes from relationships you have with people. We are all very complicated and can have our negative aspects. Developing compassion, patience and tolerance for others will go a long way to having better relationships with people. Accepting how different we all are is the starting point the rest is up to you!
What methods for addressing balance in your life worked for you? Let me know by leaving a comment below!
Good luck,
Allen
As usual let me know what you think..
Allen
Balance is important. When one aspect of our life becomes too dominant we loose that balance and experience conflict and unhappiness. It’s not easy and sometimes it feels like a juggling match but if we develop some healthy habits it is possible to achieve balance in a relaxed and calm way. Don’t forget the amount of time you devote to each aspect of your life will undergo fluctuation. It’s all a matter of realizing the natural flow of life and giving the right amount of attention to all aspects of our day to day living. So here I present my own ten tips on leading a balanced life.
1) Go home from work on time.
You need to look after yourself. Contrary to what the current culture will tell you – we are not machines. You need a healthy balance between the time you spend at work and the time you spend outside the work place. You need to be constantly reminded that there is more to life than work. (Although there will be some times you might have to work late in case of emergencies but they should be the exceptions and not the norm.)
2) Don’t be a yes person.
This follows on from point number one. You will find it easier to go home on time when you don’t agree to every single thing that is asked of you. Your inbox will never be empty – only agree to things that you can manage and that do not interfere with point 1.
3) Go to bed and get up at the same time everyday.
Treat this as your foundation for a more balanced life. Creating a natural rhythm to your day will go a long way to creating balance in your life. You will feel more rested and grounded in reality and less overwhelmed by events that happen during the day.
4) Slow down.
Consciously slow down. Walk slower, drive slower, talk slower. Notice things as you walk. Notice the tree that you pass by each day on the way to work and how it changes color with the seasons. Notice the fresh smell of morning and feel the warm sunshine on your face during the day (or the rain pelting of your face if you live in Ireland) :). Become more aware and awake in general and take your time over your day. Practice some form of daily relaxation exercise such as meditation, yoga or progressive muscle relaxation. Slow down - it is not a race you know!
5) Don’t buy into the culture around you if you don’t want to.
24-7 News (mostly bad news), the pressures of work, the go go go of modern life – this is what the media likes to tell us about our culture. That is not MY culture. I don’t agree with it and I don’t buy it. I am a human being and unique with my own feelings and needs – I don’t have to buy into something if it violates my values.
6) Create your own sub-culture involving your friends and family.
Surround yourself with people you like and who like you back. Create you own subculture of activities. Leave the couch and TV and go out and meet people be it through reading groups, charity work, nature rambles and more!
7) Recognize you have the right to be healthier than those around you.
Again don’t buy into the bad habits of other people. If everyone else around you drink too much coffee – that doesn’t mean you have to. If your colleagues at work love to eat fried foods at lunch – that doesn’t mean you have to. If your peers don’t bother to exercise that doesn’t mean you have to. Look after yourself!
8) Do something meaningful with your spare time.
Volunteer and do something that suits your personality. Not everyone can have the qualities that are required to go visit and talk to the elderly for example. Find out what skills you have (everyone has them!) and see how you could use those skills to help others.
9) Let go of the need to buy the next big thing.
If you let go of the cravings to keep consuming and buying things you don’t need then you might not feel you have to work such long hours. Why do you need that car? Is it something you really NEED or just something you think would be nice to have. Don’t forget about all those items you bought and you thought they were great to begin with. You were feeling empty and you thought that this might make your life more exciting or make you feel a bit better. Then the novelty wears off and you have that empty feeling inside that you had before you bought it in the first place. Why do you feel you need to keep up with the neighbors? If they get a big 4 X 4 does that mean you have to? Ask yourself why you feel you have to do that?
10) Develop compassion, patience and tolerance for your fellow people.
Happiness comes from relationships you have with people. We are all very complicated and can have our negative aspects. Developing compassion, patience and tolerance for others will go a long way to having better relationships with people. Accepting how different we all are is the starting point the rest is up to you!
What methods for addressing balance in your life worked for you? Let me know by leaving a comment below!
Good luck,
Allen
10 Tips on Leading a Balanced Life - Revisted.
Part two of the summer re-runs of popular posts is this one about a balanced life. Like all the life hacks and tips I write about, these are things I strive towards. I never pretend to have it all figured out by any means.
As usual let me know what you think..
Allen
Photo By N. Ireland Wallpapers / Desktop Backgrounds
Balance is important. When one aspect of our life becomes too dominant we loose that balance and experience conflict and unhappiness. It’s not easy and sometimes it feels like a juggling match but if we develop some healthy habits it is possible to achieve balance in a relaxed and calm way. Don’t forget the amount of time you devote to each aspect of your life will undergo fluctuation. It’s all a matter of realizing the natural flow of life and giving the right amount of attention to all aspects of our day to day living. So here I present my own ten tips on leading a balanced life.
1) Go home from work on time.
You need to look after yourself. Contrary to what the current culture will tell you – we are not machines. You need a healthy balance between the time you spend at work and the time you spend outside the work place. You need to be constantly reminded that there is more to life than work. (Although there will be some times you might have to work late in case of emergencies but they should be the exceptions and not the norm.)
2) Don’t be a yes person.
This follows on from point number one. You will find it easier to go home on time when you don’t agree to every single thing that is asked of you. Your inbox will never be empty – only agree to things that you can manage and that do not interfere with point 1.
3) Go to bed and get up at the same time everyday.
Treat this as your foundation for a more balanced life. Creating a natural rhythm to your day will go a long way to creating balance in your life. You will feel more rested and grounded in reality and less overwhelmed by events that happen during the day.
4) Slow down.
Consciously slow down. Walk slower, drive slower, talk slower. Notice things as you walk. Notice the tree that you pass by each day on the way to work and how it changes color with the seasons. Notice the fresh smell of morning and feel the warm sunshine on your face during the day (or the rain pelting of your face if you live in Ireland) :). Become more aware and awake in general and take your time over your day. Practice some form of daily relaxation exercise such as meditation, yoga or progressive muscle relaxation. Slow down - it is not a race you know!
5) Don’t buy into the culture around you if you don’t want to.
24-7 News (mostly bad news), the pressures of work, the go go go of modern life – this is what the media likes to tell us about our culture. That is not MY culture. I don’t agree with it and I don’t buy it. I am a human being and unique with my own feelings and needs – I don’t have to buy into something if it violates my values.
6) Create your own sub-culture involving your friends and family.
Surround yourself with people you like and who like you back. Create you own subculture of activities. Leave the couch and TV and go out and meet people be it through reading groups, charity work, nature rambles and more!
7) Recognize you have the right to be healthier than those around you.
Again don’t buy into the bad habits of other people. If everyone else around you drink too much coffee – that doesn’t mean you have to. If your colleagues at work love to eat fried foods at lunch – that doesn’t mean you have to. If your peers don’t bother to exercise that doesn’t mean you have to. Look after yourself!
8) Do something meaningful with your spare time.
Volunteer and do something that suits your personality. Not everyone can have the qualities that are required to go visit and talk to the elderly for example. Find out what skills you have (everyone has them!) and see how you could use those skills to help others.
9) Let go of the need to buy the next big thing.
If you let go of the cravings to keep consuming and buying things you don’t need then you might not feel you have to work such long hours. Why do you need that car? Is it something you really NEED or just something you think would be nice to have. Don’t forget about all those items you bought and you thought they were great to begin with. You were feeling empty and you thought that this might make your life more exciting or make you feel a bit better. Then the novelty wears off and you have that empty feeling inside that you had before you bought it in the first place. Why do you feel you need to keep up with the neighbors? If they get a big 4 X 4 does that mean you have to? Ask yourself why you feel you have to do that?
10) Develop compassion, patience and tolerance for your fellow people.
Happiness comes from relationships you have with people. We are all very complicated and can have our negative aspects. Developing compassion, patience and tolerance for others will go a long way to having better relationships with people. Accepting how different we all are is the starting point the rest is up to you!
What methods for addressing balance in your life worked for you? Let me know by leaving a comment below!
Good luck,
Allen
As usual let me know what you think..
Allen
Balance is important. When one aspect of our life becomes too dominant we loose that balance and experience conflict and unhappiness. It’s not easy and sometimes it feels like a juggling match but if we develop some healthy habits it is possible to achieve balance in a relaxed and calm way. Don’t forget the amount of time you devote to each aspect of your life will undergo fluctuation. It’s all a matter of realizing the natural flow of life and giving the right amount of attention to all aspects of our day to day living. So here I present my own ten tips on leading a balanced life.
1) Go home from work on time.
You need to look after yourself. Contrary to what the current culture will tell you – we are not machines. You need a healthy balance between the time you spend at work and the time you spend outside the work place. You need to be constantly reminded that there is more to life than work. (Although there will be some times you might have to work late in case of emergencies but they should be the exceptions and not the norm.)
2) Don’t be a yes person.
This follows on from point number one. You will find it easier to go home on time when you don’t agree to every single thing that is asked of you. Your inbox will never be empty – only agree to things that you can manage and that do not interfere with point 1.
3) Go to bed and get up at the same time everyday.
Treat this as your foundation for a more balanced life. Creating a natural rhythm to your day will go a long way to creating balance in your life. You will feel more rested and grounded in reality and less overwhelmed by events that happen during the day.
4) Slow down.
Consciously slow down. Walk slower, drive slower, talk slower. Notice things as you walk. Notice the tree that you pass by each day on the way to work and how it changes color with the seasons. Notice the fresh smell of morning and feel the warm sunshine on your face during the day (or the rain pelting of your face if you live in Ireland) :). Become more aware and awake in general and take your time over your day. Practice some form of daily relaxation exercise such as meditation, yoga or progressive muscle relaxation. Slow down - it is not a race you know!
5) Don’t buy into the culture around you if you don’t want to.
24-7 News (mostly bad news), the pressures of work, the go go go of modern life – this is what the media likes to tell us about our culture. That is not MY culture. I don’t agree with it and I don’t buy it. I am a human being and unique with my own feelings and needs – I don’t have to buy into something if it violates my values.
6) Create your own sub-culture involving your friends and family.
Surround yourself with people you like and who like you back. Create you own subculture of activities. Leave the couch and TV and go out and meet people be it through reading groups, charity work, nature rambles and more!
7) Recognize you have the right to be healthier than those around you.
Again don’t buy into the bad habits of other people. If everyone else around you drink too much coffee – that doesn’t mean you have to. If your colleagues at work love to eat fried foods at lunch – that doesn’t mean you have to. If your peers don’t bother to exercise that doesn’t mean you have to. Look after yourself!
8) Do something meaningful with your spare time.
Volunteer and do something that suits your personality. Not everyone can have the qualities that are required to go visit and talk to the elderly for example. Find out what skills you have (everyone has them!) and see how you could use those skills to help others.
9) Let go of the need to buy the next big thing.
If you let go of the cravings to keep consuming and buying things you don’t need then you might not feel you have to work such long hours. Why do you need that car? Is it something you really NEED or just something you think would be nice to have. Don’t forget about all those items you bought and you thought they were great to begin with. You were feeling empty and you thought that this might make your life more exciting or make you feel a bit better. Then the novelty wears off and you have that empty feeling inside that you had before you bought it in the first place. Why do you feel you need to keep up with the neighbors? If they get a big 4 X 4 does that mean you have to? Ask yourself why you feel you have to do that?
10) Develop compassion, patience and tolerance for your fellow people.
Happiness comes from relationships you have with people. We are all very complicated and can have our negative aspects. Developing compassion, patience and tolerance for others will go a long way to having better relationships with people. Accepting how different we all are is the starting point the rest is up to you!
What methods for addressing balance in your life worked for you? Let me know by leaving a comment below!
Good luck,
Allen
Wednesday 8 August 2007
How to handle UNEXPECTED expense!
SAME OLD TECHNIQUE (but always effective).
First TAKE A BREATH.
One thing I have learned in this life is that just when the bills are paid and you might have a few dollars extra - SOMETHING jumps in to grab those bills!
It is exhausting, discouraging, makes us angry, and unfair! BUT WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO?
Are you going to let money problems RUIN your life, your relationships, your family?
DON'T YOU DO IT! This too shall pass.
Whatever the problem a resolve will come if you maintain your cool. Remember, it's just one of those circumstances that happens and you STILL have the CHOICE of how to respond.
Here's an example: Yesterday I attended a workshop I could little afford. I am trying to create a business that is successful on the internet. They provided lunch, and just before the part I really wanted to hear, I bit down on a piece of uncooked rice and totally broke my tooth.
I had to excuse myself, go to the dentist, and was told "You need a crown. That will be $800.00 please!"
I took a breath. ALLOWED myself to be sad and discouraged for a few moments, and then took another breath. I arranged for payments, called my husband and told him I felt badly about the cost. He teased me for a minute and said, "Gosh you are expensive!" I responded by "But I'm worth it, huh?" He agreed. (Phew, got him fooled:).
Then I returned to the seminar. (Of course I didn't smile my normal big mouth smile...it looks terrible:). This morning I am so glad I picked a positive response.
You know life is going to hand you troubles year after year. That doesn't mean you have to CHOKE on them and ruin the MOMENTS of EACH DAY. All we have are these moments.
Happiness or another bill? I CHOOSE HAPPINESS....no matter what the cost!
Have a wonderful day. I care!
First TAKE A BREATH.
One thing I have learned in this life is that just when the bills are paid and you might have a few dollars extra - SOMETHING jumps in to grab those bills!
It is exhausting, discouraging, makes us angry, and unfair! BUT WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO?
Are you going to let money problems RUIN your life, your relationships, your family?
DON'T YOU DO IT! This too shall pass.
Whatever the problem a resolve will come if you maintain your cool. Remember, it's just one of those circumstances that happens and you STILL have the CHOICE of how to respond.
Here's an example: Yesterday I attended a workshop I could little afford. I am trying to create a business that is successful on the internet. They provided lunch, and just before the part I really wanted to hear, I bit down on a piece of uncooked rice and totally broke my tooth.
I had to excuse myself, go to the dentist, and was told "You need a crown. That will be $800.00 please!"
I took a breath. ALLOWED myself to be sad and discouraged for a few moments, and then took another breath. I arranged for payments, called my husband and told him I felt badly about the cost. He teased me for a minute and said, "Gosh you are expensive!" I responded by "But I'm worth it, huh?" He agreed. (Phew, got him fooled:).
Then I returned to the seminar. (Of course I didn't smile my normal big mouth smile...it looks terrible:). This morning I am so glad I picked a positive response.
You know life is going to hand you troubles year after year. That doesn't mean you have to CHOKE on them and ruin the MOMENTS of EACH DAY. All we have are these moments.
Happiness or another bill? I CHOOSE HAPPINESS....no matter what the cost!
Have a wonderful day. I care!
What time management lessons can you learn from this?
Clck the comment link below and share your insights and learnings.
Tuesday 7 August 2007
Self Help For Lazy People - Revisited
Hi there,
This is the post that kicked off this site and I felt (since it is one year later) it would be time for a re-run. If the television networks can have summer re-runs I don't see why I cant either :-) ...
Let me know what you think .. one year later?
Allen
Photo By N. Ireland Wallpapers / Desktop Backgrounds
There is a common thread to all self help books. Instead of having to fork out hard earned cash to hear the same message again and again - why not just follow the tips listed below and it will save you time and money. I have called this post "Self Help and Personal Development for Lazy People".
1) Relax - This doesn't mean to zombie out in front of the television. This means taking 10-20 minutes of your day to do NOTHING. There are various ways in which you can relax.
a) Meditation.
b) Progressive Muscle Relaxation.
c) Deep breathing.
d) Yoga.
You will find if you do this on a regular basis that you will be less susceptible to the symptoms of bad stress and you will not be as tired.
2) Take regular physical exercise - It doesn’t have to be anything special - a daily 20 minute walk would be enough and if you feel like doing more you will. Start with small amounts of enjoyable exercise. Don't be going off all gung ho.
3) Eat a balanced diet. There has been so much written on this. I think you know what you should eat more off and what you should cut down on.
4) Sleep well - Go to bed and get up at the same time everyday. Listen to your body - everyone needs different amounts of sleep. You know what the right amount is for you. If you have a television in your bedroom - get rid of it! The bedroom should be used for two things and one of them is sleeping. See your sleep as an investment in order to feel better during the day.
5) Socialize - Spend time with family and friends on a regular basis. Try not to isolate yourself.
6) Keep a journal - These are great places to express your feelings, review what happened during the day and solve problems. Get your problems out of your head and onto paper and you will feel less overwhelmed by them.
7) Help other people - It’s simple. You help others - they will feel good and you will feel good. The world will be a better place if we all did this.
8) Keep close to nature - Go for walks in the country, do some gardening and basically anything that will remind you that there is more to this earth than us!
9) Develop a spiritual life - Christianity, Buddhism, Islam, Hinduism - whatever is your thing.
10) Laugh - Keep a sense of humor about life! In a hundred years you will be dead so lighten up and enjoy it.
11) Watch less T.V. - There are a few programs I really like. I usually tape them so I can choose when to watch them. Watching less T.V. will free so much of your time up to go and do so many other things. I get my news from listening to the radio or the internet. Again you don’t have to cut it out all together but you have to ask yourself – does anyone benefit from watching Big Brother?
12) Listen – If you give someone who is talking to you 100% of your attention you will feel more relaxed and responsive to that person. Your mind will not be rushing on to the next thing that needs to be done and the person who is talking to you will respond warmly to your attention.
13) De-clutter your life - Strive for a minimalistic life style. What do you want with all the stuff? How many little dust collectors do you have that you can get rid off? Stop listening to all those ads. If you buy THAT it will NOT make you happy. Keep things simple!
14) Get organized - Manage your time better at work prioritize your tasks. Stop procrastinating. Keep your home clean and well organized. You will feel better and less frustrated. Time is a precious quantity - look after it.
Finally ..
15) Think for yourself - You don’t have to blindly follow people and do what everyone else is doing. You don’t have to follow the culture in which you live if you don’t agree with it. You are your own unique and special individual. You are not to be classified or labeled! You are YOU! No other person has ever existed – quite like you. No other person will ever exist again like you. Listen to your feelings more and think for yourself. Do not blindly accept things just because other people do. Be true to yourself and you will be more fully human and in the end happier.
I hope you find this post useful… If you follow the tips above, I can guarantee you will feel better.
Good Luck,
Allen
If you liked this you might like to read:
How to Stop Obsessive Worry for Lazy People
50 Self Nuturing Activities for Lazy People
p.s. More posts along this topic will follow soon including ...
How To Get Exercise and Avoid The Gym for Lazy People and
How to be Assertive for Lazy People.
Click here for professional e-commerce and website development.
This is the post that kicked off this site and I felt (since it is one year later) it would be time for a re-run. If the television networks can have summer re-runs I don't see why I cant either :-) ...
Let me know what you think .. one year later?
Allen
Photo By N. Ireland Wallpapers / Desktop Backgrounds
There is a common thread to all self help books. Instead of having to fork out hard earned cash to hear the same message again and again - why not just follow the tips listed below and it will save you time and money. I have called this post "Self Help and Personal Development for Lazy People".
1) Relax - This doesn't mean to zombie out in front of the television. This means taking 10-20 minutes of your day to do NOTHING. There are various ways in which you can relax.
a) Meditation.
b) Progressive Muscle Relaxation.
c) Deep breathing.
d) Yoga.
You will find if you do this on a regular basis that you will be less susceptible to the symptoms of bad stress and you will not be as tired.
2) Take regular physical exercise - It doesn’t have to be anything special - a daily 20 minute walk would be enough and if you feel like doing more you will. Start with small amounts of enjoyable exercise. Don't be going off all gung ho.
3) Eat a balanced diet. There has been so much written on this. I think you know what you should eat more off and what you should cut down on.
4) Sleep well - Go to bed and get up at the same time everyday. Listen to your body - everyone needs different amounts of sleep. You know what the right amount is for you. If you have a television in your bedroom - get rid of it! The bedroom should be used for two things and one of them is sleeping. See your sleep as an investment in order to feel better during the day.
5) Socialize - Spend time with family and friends on a regular basis. Try not to isolate yourself.
6) Keep a journal - These are great places to express your feelings, review what happened during the day and solve problems. Get your problems out of your head and onto paper and you will feel less overwhelmed by them.
7) Help other people - It’s simple. You help others - they will feel good and you will feel good. The world will be a better place if we all did this.
8) Keep close to nature - Go for walks in the country, do some gardening and basically anything that will remind you that there is more to this earth than us!
9) Develop a spiritual life - Christianity, Buddhism, Islam, Hinduism - whatever is your thing.
10) Laugh - Keep a sense of humor about life! In a hundred years you will be dead so lighten up and enjoy it.
11) Watch less T.V. - There are a few programs I really like. I usually tape them so I can choose when to watch them. Watching less T.V. will free so much of your time up to go and do so many other things. I get my news from listening to the radio or the internet. Again you don’t have to cut it out all together but you have to ask yourself – does anyone benefit from watching Big Brother?
12) Listen – If you give someone who is talking to you 100% of your attention you will feel more relaxed and responsive to that person. Your mind will not be rushing on to the next thing that needs to be done and the person who is talking to you will respond warmly to your attention.
13) De-clutter your life - Strive for a minimalistic life style. What do you want with all the stuff? How many little dust collectors do you have that you can get rid off? Stop listening to all those ads. If you buy THAT it will NOT make you happy. Keep things simple!
14) Get organized - Manage your time better at work prioritize your tasks. Stop procrastinating. Keep your home clean and well organized. You will feel better and less frustrated. Time is a precious quantity - look after it.
Finally ..
15) Think for yourself - You don’t have to blindly follow people and do what everyone else is doing. You don’t have to follow the culture in which you live if you don’t agree with it. You are your own unique and special individual. You are not to be classified or labeled! You are YOU! No other person has ever existed – quite like you. No other person will ever exist again like you. Listen to your feelings more and think for yourself. Do not blindly accept things just because other people do. Be true to yourself and you will be more fully human and in the end happier.
I hope you find this post useful… If you follow the tips above, I can guarantee you will feel better.
Good Luck,
Allen
If you liked this you might like to read:
How to Stop Obsessive Worry for Lazy People
50 Self Nuturing Activities for Lazy People
p.s. More posts along this topic will follow soon including ...
How To Get Exercise and Avoid The Gym for Lazy People and
How to be Assertive for Lazy People.
Self Help For Lazy People - Revisited
Hi there,
This is the post that kicked off this site and I felt (since it is one year later) it would be time for a re-run. If the television networks can have summer re-runs I don't see why I cant either :-) ...
Let me know what you think .. one year later?
Allen
Photo By N. Ireland Wallpapers / Desktop Backgrounds
There is a common thread to all self help books. Instead of having to fork out hard earned cash to hear the same message again and again - why not just follow the tips listed below and it will save you time and money. I have called this post "Self Help and Personal Development for Lazy People".
1) Relax - This doesn't mean to zombie out in front of the television. This means taking 10-20 minutes of your day to do NOTHING. There are various ways in which you can relax.
a) Meditation.
b) Progressive Muscle Relaxation.
c) Deep breathing.
d) Yoga.
You will find if you do this on a regular basis that you will be less susceptible to the symptoms of bad stress and you will not be as tired.
2) Take regular physical exercise - It doesn’t have to be anything special - a daily 20 minute walk would be enough and if you feel like doing more you will. Start with small amounts of enjoyable exercise. Don't be going off all gung ho.
3) Eat a balanced diet. There has been so much written on this. I think you know what you should eat more off and what you should cut down on.
4) Sleep well - Go to bed and get up at the same time everyday. Listen to your body - everyone needs different amounts of sleep. You know what the right amount is for you. If you have a television in your bedroom - get rid of it! The bedroom should be used for two things and one of them is sleeping. See your sleep as an investment in order to feel better during the day.
5) Socialize - Spend time with family and friends on a regular basis. Try not to isolate yourself.
6) Keep a journal - These are great places to express your feelings, review what happened during the day and solve problems. Get your problems out of your head and onto paper and you will feel less overwhelmed by them.
7) Help other people - It’s simple. You help others - they will feel good and you will feel good. The world will be a better place if we all did this.
8) Keep close to nature - Go for walks in the country, do some gardening and basically anything that will remind you that there is more to this earth than us!
9) Develop a spiritual life - Christianity, Buddhism, Islam, Hinduism - whatever is your thing.
10) Laugh - Keep a sense of humor about life! In a hundred years you will be dead so lighten up and enjoy it.
11) Watch less T.V. - There are a few programs I really like. I usually tape them so I can choose when to watch them. Watching less T.V. will free so much of your time up to go and do so many other things. I get my news from listening to the radio or the internet. Again you don’t have to cut it out all together but you have to ask yourself – does anyone benefit from watching Big Brother?
12) Listen – If you give someone who is talking to you 100% of your attention you will feel more relaxed and responsive to that person. Your mind will not be rushing on to the next thing that needs to be done and the person who is talking to you will respond warmly to your attention.
13) De-clutter your life - Strive for a minimalistic life style. What do you want with all the stuff? How many little dust collectors do you have that you can get rid off? Stop listening to all those ads. If you buy THAT it will NOT make you happy. Keep things simple!
14) Get organized - Manage your time better at work prioritize your tasks. Stop procrastinating. Keep your home clean and well organized. You will feel better and less frustrated. Time is a precious quantity - look after it.
Finally ..
15) Think for yourself - You don’t have to blindly follow people and do what everyone else is doing. You don’t have to follow the culture in which you live if you don’t agree with it. You are your own unique and special individual. You are not to be classified or labeled! You are YOU! No other person has ever existed – quite like you. No other person will ever exist again like you. Listen to your feelings more and think for yourself. Do not blindly accept things just because other people do. Be true to yourself and you will be more fully human and in the end happier.
I hope you find this post useful… If you follow the tips above, I can guarantee you will feel better.
Good Luck,
Allen
If you liked this you might like to read:
How to Stop Obsessive Worry for Lazy People
50 Self Nuturing Activities for Lazy People
p.s. More posts along this topic will follow soon including ...
How To Get Exercise and Avoid The Gym for Lazy People and
How to be Assertive for Lazy People.
Click here for professional e-commerce and website development.
This is the post that kicked off this site and I felt (since it is one year later) it would be time for a re-run. If the television networks can have summer re-runs I don't see why I cant either :-) ...
Let me know what you think .. one year later?
Allen
Photo By N. Ireland Wallpapers / Desktop Backgrounds
There is a common thread to all self help books. Instead of having to fork out hard earned cash to hear the same message again and again - why not just follow the tips listed below and it will save you time and money. I have called this post "Self Help and Personal Development for Lazy People".
1) Relax - This doesn't mean to zombie out in front of the television. This means taking 10-20 minutes of your day to do NOTHING. There are various ways in which you can relax.
a) Meditation.
b) Progressive Muscle Relaxation.
c) Deep breathing.
d) Yoga.
You will find if you do this on a regular basis that you will be less susceptible to the symptoms of bad stress and you will not be as tired.
2) Take regular physical exercise - It doesn’t have to be anything special - a daily 20 minute walk would be enough and if you feel like doing more you will. Start with small amounts of enjoyable exercise. Don't be going off all gung ho.
3) Eat a balanced diet. There has been so much written on this. I think you know what you should eat more off and what you should cut down on.
4) Sleep well - Go to bed and get up at the same time everyday. Listen to your body - everyone needs different amounts of sleep. You know what the right amount is for you. If you have a television in your bedroom - get rid of it! The bedroom should be used for two things and one of them is sleeping. See your sleep as an investment in order to feel better during the day.
5) Socialize - Spend time with family and friends on a regular basis. Try not to isolate yourself.
6) Keep a journal - These are great places to express your feelings, review what happened during the day and solve problems. Get your problems out of your head and onto paper and you will feel less overwhelmed by them.
7) Help other people - It’s simple. You help others - they will feel good and you will feel good. The world will be a better place if we all did this.
8) Keep close to nature - Go for walks in the country, do some gardening and basically anything that will remind you that there is more to this earth than us!
9) Develop a spiritual life - Christianity, Buddhism, Islam, Hinduism - whatever is your thing.
10) Laugh - Keep a sense of humor about life! In a hundred years you will be dead so lighten up and enjoy it.
11) Watch less T.V. - There are a few programs I really like. I usually tape them so I can choose when to watch them. Watching less T.V. will free so much of your time up to go and do so many other things. I get my news from listening to the radio or the internet. Again you don’t have to cut it out all together but you have to ask yourself – does anyone benefit from watching Big Brother?
12) Listen – If you give someone who is talking to you 100% of your attention you will feel more relaxed and responsive to that person. Your mind will not be rushing on to the next thing that needs to be done and the person who is talking to you will respond warmly to your attention.
13) De-clutter your life - Strive for a minimalistic life style. What do you want with all the stuff? How many little dust collectors do you have that you can get rid off? Stop listening to all those ads. If you buy THAT it will NOT make you happy. Keep things simple!
14) Get organized - Manage your time better at work prioritize your tasks. Stop procrastinating. Keep your home clean and well organized. You will feel better and less frustrated. Time is a precious quantity - look after it.
Finally ..
15) Think for yourself - You don’t have to blindly follow people and do what everyone else is doing. You don’t have to follow the culture in which you live if you don’t agree with it. You are your own unique and special individual. You are not to be classified or labeled! You are YOU! No other person has ever existed – quite like you. No other person will ever exist again like you. Listen to your feelings more and think for yourself. Do not blindly accept things just because other people do. Be true to yourself and you will be more fully human and in the end happier.
I hope you find this post useful… If you follow the tips above, I can guarantee you will feel better.
Good Luck,
Allen
If you liked this you might like to read:
How to Stop Obsessive Worry for Lazy People
50 Self Nuturing Activities for Lazy People
p.s. More posts along this topic will follow soon including ...
How To Get Exercise and Avoid The Gym for Lazy People and
How to be Assertive for Lazy People.
Monday 6 August 2007
Sunday 5 August 2007
Is your neck tired and stiff?
I love input from those who are also in the field of making us healthier
and stronger! Here's one I think works beautifully!
Try this:
"Breathe and sigh often, as you rest your left palm on your right shoulder.
Pull down from your shoulder to your breastbone (sternum) as your
fingers sink into those muscles.
Repeat 3 times. Switch sides and repeat."
It works and it feels wonderful and is soooooo good for you!
Thanks Lynn, you sweet little angel!
and stronger! Here's one I think works beautifully!
Try this:
"Breathe and sigh often, as you rest your left palm on your right shoulder.
Pull down from your shoulder to your breastbone (sternum) as your
fingers sink into those muscles.
Repeat 3 times. Switch sides and repeat."
It works and it feels wonderful and is soooooo good for you!
Thanks Lynn, you sweet little angel!
Friday 3 August 2007
No matter how stressful your day may appear....
REMEMBER: We only have the moment we are in right now! Can't change the past, only
can dream of the future, but what we have is HERE and NOW.
Use your moments with love and compassion. Be forgiving of others and take many of the tasks that seem so important - lightly, with confidence that you can only do so much, and with a sense of humor.
My love and prayers to those lost spirits in Minnesota, and those around the world....
and my love too, goes to families who must learn to go forth and survive.
CREATE your life from this moment forth!
can dream of the future, but what we have is HERE and NOW.
Use your moments with love and compassion. Be forgiving of others and take many of the tasks that seem so important - lightly, with confidence that you can only do so much, and with a sense of humor.
My love and prayers to those lost spirits in Minnesota, and those around the world....
and my love too, goes to families who must learn to go forth and survive.
CREATE your life from this moment forth!
Thursday 2 August 2007
Secret #88 The Titantic Principle
In the frenetic pace to figure out how to get more time, we often focus our attention on "time-saving" devices and ideas. That is, we seek to be efficient because we think that it will "save time." Yet, focusing your attention on being efficient is a good thing ONLY if you're doing something worthwhile in the first place. "There is nothing so useless as doing efficiently that which should not be done at all."
--Peter Drucker
Think about it. Are you really being efficient if you're cleaning the kitchen on the Titantic?
It's quite possible to be wonderfully efficient at something that's not really worth doing.
It's just a thought.
BA
Wednesday 1 August 2007
Electronic devices and STRESS!
I read that the average American has at least 26 electronic devices between their home and place of employment, and they are literally DRIVING US CRAZY!
Yes, they are wonderful and helpful. But in all honesty, haven't you sometimes felt
like picking up your computer and throwing it? Haven't you cussed when the cell cut you off from an important conversation, or someone in traffic cut you off because they were busy using their hands to talk on their cell phone?
We all have endured STRESS caused by one of our electronic devices at one time or another. As wonderful as they are, we CANNOTallow an electronic "object" to control our emotions and our lives!
Here are a few tips to help when you feel like flushing one of these things down the toilet. (80% of respondents in a recent survey confessed to at least cursing out loud at a machine!)
1. Reboot and relax. Stop for a moment and drop your shoulders. I will guarantee under stress that they go up. When they do you limit circulation to the brain - and the brain needs 50% more oxygen to function optimally. So think, drop the shoulders, take a breath and remember you are restoring the flow of oxygen and blood so you can be calmer and think clearly.
2. When we stare at computers we deprive our eyes of tears. We blink less and our eyes become tired and dryer. When we age our eyes are dryer anyway, so this isn't good. Stop. Every 20 minutes or so look away from the screen for 20-30 seconds.
Blink your eyes a few times. You can even rub your fingers together until they are warm, close your eyes and place them on the lids. This will feel great and help to relax them.
3. Stop typing once in a while. Your hands take a beating. Shake them. Stretch them. Do a bit of self massage. Breathe into them. They work hard for you ALL day, not just at the computer!
4. TURN OFF THE CELL PHONE in the car! Cell phone use is the cause of many accidents. Cell phones are terrific for emergency use, or something that is critically important. But think. What did you do before adding this device to your life.
Probably no business while driving. No "emotions" caused by conversations. No
anger from other drivers because you aren't paying attention. Turn off the phone!
TAKE A MINI-VACATION........listen to your favorite music! Think, plan, just enjoy the drive if you can.
Okay, that's it for now. CREATE a beautiful day and remember: It's YOUR LIFE!
Save it, use it wisely, remember to laugh and smile. I care!
Yes, they are wonderful and helpful. But in all honesty, haven't you sometimes felt
like picking up your computer and throwing it? Haven't you cussed when the cell cut you off from an important conversation, or someone in traffic cut you off because they were busy using their hands to talk on their cell phone?
We all have endured STRESS caused by one of our electronic devices at one time or another. As wonderful as they are, we CANNOTallow an electronic "object" to control our emotions and our lives!
Here are a few tips to help when you feel like flushing one of these things down the toilet. (80% of respondents in a recent survey confessed to at least cursing out loud at a machine!)
1. Reboot and relax. Stop for a moment and drop your shoulders. I will guarantee under stress that they go up. When they do you limit circulation to the brain - and the brain needs 50% more oxygen to function optimally. So think, drop the shoulders, take a breath and remember you are restoring the flow of oxygen and blood so you can be calmer and think clearly.
2. When we stare at computers we deprive our eyes of tears. We blink less and our eyes become tired and dryer. When we age our eyes are dryer anyway, so this isn't good. Stop. Every 20 minutes or so look away from the screen for 20-30 seconds.
Blink your eyes a few times. You can even rub your fingers together until they are warm, close your eyes and place them on the lids. This will feel great and help to relax them.
3. Stop typing once in a while. Your hands take a beating. Shake them. Stretch them. Do a bit of self massage. Breathe into them. They work hard for you ALL day, not just at the computer!
4. TURN OFF THE CELL PHONE in the car! Cell phone use is the cause of many accidents. Cell phones are terrific for emergency use, or something that is critically important. But think. What did you do before adding this device to your life.
Probably no business while driving. No "emotions" caused by conversations. No
anger from other drivers because you aren't paying attention. Turn off the phone!
TAKE A MINI-VACATION........listen to your favorite music! Think, plan, just enjoy the drive if you can.
Okay, that's it for now. CREATE a beautiful day and remember: It's YOUR LIFE!
Save it, use it wisely, remember to laugh and smile. I care!
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