Friday, 29 August 2008

The Philosophy of Charles Schultz.

The following is the philosophy of
Charles Schultz, the creator of the 'Peanuts' comic strip. You don't have to
actually answer the questions. Just read the article straight through, and
you'll get the point.

1. Name the five wealthiest people
in the world.

2. Name the last five Heisman
trophy winners.

3. Name the last five winners of
the Miss America.

4. Name ten people who have won the
Nobel or Pulitzer Prize.

5. Name the last half dozen Academy
Award winner for best actor and actress.

6. Name the last decade's worth of
World Series winners.

How did you do?

The point is,
none of us remember the headliners of yesterday. These are no second-rate
achievers. They are the best in their fields. But the applause dies. Awards
tarnish. Achievements are forgotten. Accolades and certificates are buried
with their owners.

Here's another quiz. See how you do
on this one:

1. List a few teachers who aided
your journey through school.

2. Name three friends who have
helped you through a difficult time.

3. Name five people who have taught
you something worthwhile.

4. Think of a few people who have
made you feel appreciated and special.

5. Think of five people you enjoy
spending time with .


The lesson: The people who make a
difference in your life are not the ones with the most credentials, the most
money, or the most awards. They are the ones that

'Don't worry about the world coming
to an end today. It's already tomorrow in Australia ' (Charles Schultz)

The Philosophy of Charles Schultz.

The following is the philosophy of
Charles Schultz, the creator of the 'Peanuts' comic strip. You don't have to
actually answer the questions. Just read the article straight through, and
you'll get the point.

1. Name the five wealthiest people
in the world.

2. Name the last five Heisman
trophy winners.

3. Name the last five winners of
the Miss America.

4. Name ten people who have won the
Nobel or Pulitzer Prize.

5. Name the last half dozen Academy
Award winner for best actor and actress.

6. Name the last decade's worth of
World Series winners.

How did you do?

The point is,
none of us remember the headliners of yesterday. These are no second-rate
achievers. They are the best in their fields. But the applause dies. Awards
tarnish. Achievements are forgotten. Accolades and certificates are buried
with their owners.

Here's another quiz. See how you do
on this one:

1. List a few teachers who aided
your journey through school.

2. Name three friends who have
helped you through a difficult time.

3. Name five people who have taught
you something worthwhile.

4. Think of a few people who have
made you feel appreciated and special.

5. Think of five people you enjoy
spending time with .


The lesson: The people who make a
difference in your life are not the ones with the most credentials, the most
money, or the most awards. They are the ones that

'Don't worry about the world coming
to an end today. It's already tomorrow in Australia ' (Charles Schultz)

Friday, 22 August 2008

Manifesting what?

It's a funny word, manifest. And it's a word commonly used today. But it's been around awhile.

Merriam-Webster says it's a Middle English word, dating back to the 14th century, during a time of ruin and defeat, famine and the Black Plague. It's a word that involves the senses, sight, in particular. To manifest something means you can recognize it. It's synonymous to the word, evident.

Today, we use the word in relation to thought. If you think something, you can manifest it, we say. You can make it so.

You can manifest your own terrible day, or you can manifest your own good day, just by thinking it. And you can do exactly the opposite as well, just by thinking it. You can program your mind to recognize what you want it to think, feel, say or do. From the mind of E.B. White who wrote Charlotte's Web, that's some power.

If it's true, this seemingly magical ability, what are you manifesting in your life?

If you find yourself caught in a bout of depression, do you believe you can think your way out of it? If you wake up in a cheerful mood all the time, how do your thoughts play into that? Are you willing yourself to feel this way?

Share your opinion about the word, manifest, and how it affects your life? Perhaps you'll see your Inner strength is stronger than you thought.

Add your comments here.

All my best,

Wednesday, 20 August 2008

Secret #135 Live in the Light of the Brevity of Life

"Teach us to number our days aright so that we can gain a heart of wisdom."
—Psalms 90:12

Health Agencies Urge Parents to Protect Kids from Mosquitoes as West Nile Virus Cases Surge

Repellent Bug Bam! wristband is all-natural alternative to DEET products.

Los Angeles, CA (Vocus) August 12, 2008 -- Health officials across America are reporting a surge in cases of West Nile Virus and urging parents to protect children from the mosquito bites that spread the potentially deadly disease. The virus causes serious symptoms in about 20 percent of infected people, and so far this year is linked to two deaths in Arizona and Mississippi, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

Arming kids with insect repellent, installing window and door fly-screens and draining sources of stagnant water are recommended protective measures during peak infection period, from early August through October, according to the CDC.

Conventional liquid insect repellents are often messy, smelly and rely on a chemical pesticide called DEET, which may irritate skin and eyes. But the new Bug Bam! Insect Repelling Wristband is the only 100 percent natural repellent scientifically-proven by leading US entomology labs to repel mosquitoes and other biting insects in 98 percent of the population.

Bug Bam Products' natural, FDA-approved ingredients safely repel mosquitoes by emitting plant odors that mask the natural body odors that entice mosquitoes. The EPA-approved natural ingredients used in Bug Bam products - citronella, geranium and lemongrass - are also kind to the environment, according to Australian outdoors enthusiast, environmentalist and founder of Bug Bam Products, Joseph M. Symond, who developed the wristband in response to the swarming mosquitoes that thwarted his wilderness adventures.

Endorsed by the National Camp Association, the fun, bright red Bug Bam wristband, which sports the words "Because Mosquitoes Suck" - protects a child or adult for up to 100 hours, unlike traditional chemical repellents, which are diluted by water and perspiration and must be reapplied throughout the day. Left unopened in the packet, the wristband remains effective for

up to two years. The product comes in packets of one or two wristbands. People with severe allergies to fragrances of essential oils should consult an MD before using Bug Bam! products.

Entertaining Solutions: For safe, hassle-free indoor and outdoor entertaining and camping, the Bug Bam Camp Grids, plastic hanging grids that repel biting insects for up to 100 hours across a 300-square-foot area. The 5-inch-square grid comes in a vapor-proof zip-locked re-sealable bag and is reusable for up to two years. Bug Bam also sells a value pack containing one grid and five wristbands.

Bug Bam's wristband and hanging grid products are now available at select U.S. retailers, including Wal-Mart and BJs and online at

About West Nile Virus: While 80 percent of people exposed to West Nile Virus never experience symptoms, up to 20 percent suffer debilitating symptoms such as fever, headache, and body aches, nausea, vomiting, swollen lymph glands or skin rashes, according to the CDC.

About one in 150 infected people develop serious complications such as high fever, headache, neck stiffness, stupor, disorientation, coma, tremors, convulsions, muscle weakness, vision loss, numbness and paralysis. Rarer is potentially fatal West Nile encephalitis, or brain inflammation; and West Nile meningitis, inflammation of membrane in the brain and spinal cord.

So far in 2008, WNV cases in humans have been reported in Alabama, Arizona, Arkansas, California, Colorado, Connecticut, Idaho, Louisiana, Minnesota, Mississippi, Missouri, Nebraska, Nevada, North Dakota, Ohio, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania, South Dakota, Tennessee, Texas, Utah, West Virginia and Wyoming, according to CDC data. Further instances of the avian disease have been reported in birds, insects and animals in other US states.

Why a Powerful Natural Repellent is Preferable to Chemical Repellents: DEET, or diethyl-meta-toluamide, is the chemical pesticide most commonly used in insect repellents. In some instances DEET causes eye and skin irritations and reactions, and in rare cases, is associated with seizures, according to the National Pesticide Information Center. The American Academy of Pediatrics urges parents not to use DEET products on children younger than 2 months and to apply the products a maximum of once a day to children older than 2 months.

More Tips for Avoiding Mosquitoes:
  1. Avoid fragrant hair spray and cologne.
  2. Particularly avoid exposure when mosquitoes are most active, at dusk and dawn.
  3. Eliminate standing water where mosquitoes lay eggs, such as flower pots, bird baths, ponds, neglected pools and hot tubs, open boats and wheelbarrows.
  4. Install or repair window and door screens.
  5. Report dead birds to local authorities. Mosquitoes carry the virus from birds to humans.
  6. Band with neighbors to clean up stagnant water in local parks
Bug Bam Testimonials: "We had our annual Memorial Day BBQ. The usual uninvited bugs came out in force. We decide to try out the Bug Bam products we recently received. Within moments the annoying pests were gone. The product did its job and what my guests and I also appreciated was how easy to use this all-natural product is." -- Jeff Solomon - Director, National Camp Association

"In Oklahoma we have mosquitoes the size of small sparrows. I never heard another complaint after the Bug Bam arrived." -- Spokesperson for the National Veterans Golden Age Games in Norman, Oklahoma - VA Medical Center, Oklahoma City, OK.

"Not only did Bug Bam work, it alleviated some of our main concerns regarding the insect issue, the prevalence of Malaria and the evening inundation of insects into our one-man tents." -- Dual Olympic Heptathlete, Jane Flemming of Australia, who led a trek through the Papua New Guinea jungle.

BIOGRAPHY: Joseph M. Symond, creator of Bug Bam! Products: Australian entrepreneur and avid outdoorsman Joseph M. Symond developed the Bug Bam range of products as a result of his own frustrating encounters with mosquitoes while enjoying the great outdoors. Symond began creating natural remedies for mosquitoes back in 1998, and, seeing a broader need for a natural, chemical-free eco-friendly mosquito repellent, he developed the DEET-free food-grade Bug Bam bracelet in 2004. Symond, who lectures and speaks publically on the dangers of mosquito exposure, has expanded Bug Bam's range of products to include the Bug Bam Camp Grid and Bug Bam pet-collar. Symond's commitment to developing socially responsible products has its roots in a near-fatal attack he suffered age 14 by a Blue-Ringed Octopus, for which there is no anti-venom.

Concierge Medicine--Premier Medical Service for a Price

With patients demanding a greater level of customer service during office visits and physicians receiving reduced amounts of income through standard insurance reimbursements, a growing trend in the healthcare profession is the practice of "concierge medicine." However, there are important ethical and legal questions that surround this controversial approach to patient care, as discussed in a special report in the most recent edition of the Jackson & Coker Industry Report entitled "Concierge Medicine--A Growing Trend?"

Alpharetta, GA (PRWEB) August 13, 2008 -- With patients demanding a greater level of customer service during office visits and physicians receiving reduced amounts of income through standard insurance reimbursements, a growing trend in the healthcare profession is the practice of "concierge medicine." The premise behind this concept is that some patients are willing to open their wallets wider to pay for a "premier" level of medical service and personal attention.

However, there are important ethical and legal questions that surround this controversial approach to patient care, as discussed in a special report in the most recent edition of the Jackson & Coker Industry Report entitled "Concierge Medicine--A Growing Trend?"
"Admittedly, concierge medicine is making some significant inroads into the healthcare community, but there are important questions that need to be addressed concerning this innovative practice model," mentions Sandra Garrett, president of Jackson & Coker.
Understanding the Concept: Often referred to as "boutique medicine," "direct practice," "retainer practice," or "innovative practice design," concierge medicine is not a brand-new concept. For the last dozen years, a growing number of physician practices in the United States have experimented with the concept of offering a more personalized approach to treating patients who are willing to pay more out-of-pocket fees for shorter wait times during office visits, lengthier consultations, 24/7 access to their primary care physician via cell phone, and, in some instances, house calls by someone on the medical staff.
All of this is for a price. Often times, concierge practices offer a tiered-approach to fees for service. On top of customary insurance billing, the practice may charge patients annual fees ranging from $1,000 per person or upwards of $15,000 to $20,000 per family.
Thomas W. LaGrelius, MD, FAAFP, president of the Society for Innovative Medical Practice Design (SIMPD), addresses the matter of cost: "The range of fees goes down to as low as $39 per month for full care concierge services" in some practices. "The national average is less than $150 per month and membership levels as low as 50 patients. The average practice has about 600 patients as its cap. Keep in mind, the most expensive concierge doctor with the fewest patients is the White House doctor."
Some critics of concierge medicine raise this important question: How can healthcare practitioners justify concierge medicine on the upper end of the tier, given the fact that an estimated 40+ million of U.S. residents lack any insurance coverage at all? Furthermore, by making medical treatment even more costly, doesn't this widen the current disparity in healthcare delivery that is of concern to many segments of society?
"Such critics are short-sighted. Insurance is the problem, not the solution," mentions Dr. LaGrelius. "Most primary care doctors today run from room to room with seven-minute visits accomplishing next to nothing in the pursuit of generating enough CPT codes to keep the office solvent. Half the money paid to health plans and government for health care is wasted."
"Concierge doctors have been shown to cut high tech and hospital costs by as much as 60-85%. Insurance is not a useful tool in the delivery of primary care. Such care should be purchased directly, thus eliminating the costly, meddlesome middle man," he points out.
In fact, proponents of concierge medicine stipulate that for a modest $100 - $200 monthly retainer, along with higher deductibles to cover serious emergencies, providing patients significantly greater personalized medical attention is actually cheaper than traditional insurance-based healthcare models.
Direct practice proponents would further argue that this approach to patient treatment is intended to bridge the gap between theory and practice concerning consumer-driven medicine, and as such might serve as a viable model for reformed healthcare care in America.
Lingering Questions: No matter which side of the argument one supports, there are lingering questions that concern all sectors of the healthcare community, as the JCIR special report notes. For instance, the American Medical Association (AMA) emphasizes that licensed physicians are obligated to provide the same level of care to all patients treated, regardless of their economic status. (Direct practitioners would emphasis that they also abide by this ethical standard.)
With respect to consumer satisfaction, patients who pay out-of-pocket $10,000 or more for family medical care certainly expect a different level of service than they have previously received.
Quality of care is judged by recipients of medical treatment, regardless of the cost, explains Dr. LaGrelius: "Keep in mind, the average concierge fee today is less than $150 per month. Most Americans pay more for cable, cell phone bills and cigarettes. Concierge medicine costs, like cell phones, are going down and such care is being used by more and more average Americans. That trend will continue. Most innovations start with wealthier people and then become generalized."
Furthermore, there are ethical and legal matters concerning when and how to inform current patients when a medical practice transitions to a retainer-based model. Patients who cannot afford concierge-level medical care must be given the opportunity to continue seeing competent physicians whose services are more affordable.
Concierge physicians have no problem with this stipulation, but point out that their approach to primary care medicine is to rule in, not rule out, persons who can benefit from access to "direct practice medical homes," much like the Dr. Welby-type practices of yester-year. Or at least that's their visionary goal.
As healthcare costs and delivery models are hotly debated in this political season, a fresh spotlight shines on innovative practice design, which will undoubtedly gain much more attention in the foreseeable future.
Ms. Garrett comments: "Our special report on concierge medicine raises concerns for all segments of the healthcare community. Though an interesting concept, it remains to be seen how widespread concierge medicine will be adopted by patients and practitioners who generally agree that improving customer service is a priority in our consumer-driven society."
About Jackson & Coker: Begun in 1978, Jackson & Coker is a prominent physician recruitment firm headquartered in Alpharetta, Georgia. The firm places physicians in over 40 medical specialties as well as advanced practitioners (such as CRNAs) in temporary (locum tenens) assignments and permanent placement opportunities.

Jackson & Coker is a member of a "family of companies" known as Jackson Healthcare (JH). The corporation provides information technology and human resources solutions to hospitals and healthcare organizations across the country. Jackson Healthcare has the distinction of being voted among "Atlanta's Top 10 Fastest Growing Companies" and designated by Inc. Magazine as among "The Fastest growing U.S. private companies."

More information concerning Jackson & Coker -- along with the monthly Jackson & Coker Industry Report--can be found at

Gerbig Engineering Introduces New Product Feature

Burnsville Minn. (PRWEB) August 19, 2008 -- Gerbig Engineering, a designer, fabricator and installer of cleanrooms and cleanroom equipment now has available new feature for the AireCell line of modular cleanrooms. The product is an integrated wall mounted pre-filter. The pre-filter features a perforated aluminum panel, hinged frame and anodized aluminum framing to match the AireCell framing System. The pre-filter is available in efficiencies up to MERV 7.

The wall mounted pre-filter allows users to have much easier access to change the filter. Now cleanroom users don't have to access their ceiling to change filters, thus reducing cleanroom disturbance.

"This product is one of several features that we have introduced recently that significantly enhances the cleanroom functionality and ease of maintenance", said Fred Gerbig, President of Gerbig Engineering. "The industry response to these enhancements has been extremely positive."

Gerbig Engineering is a privately owned company located in Burnsville, MN. The company specializes in designing, fabricating and installing cleanrooms and cleanroom systems for the medical and pharmaceutical industries. This includes hardwall and softwall cleanrooms, modular cleanrooms and cleanroom workstations. For more information, check out their website:

Monday, 18 August 2008

Coaching along

I'm in my second month now as a BIKE coach. I have two clients, and it's going well. Despite the resistance--It's so hard to look inward--I love how people really can figure things out on their own. I've done it myself, but I now get the chance to see it from the other side. It's amazing, the power of the mind.

We all just need a little push sometimes, and people in the mainstream are recognizing that. That's why the coaching profession is seeing such huge growth rate right now. The ICF (International Coaches Federation) has certified more than 4,000 coaches worldwide, in 47 different countries--more than 500 credentialed since January 2008. It's something I'm looking into for myself now.

It just goes to show that we know we are not on this earth alone. We do need assistance now and then. And it's okay to ask for help.

This isn't therapy. It's not consulting (though either could be involved). It's assistance that helps a person set and meet his or her goals. The coach just helps the client figure out solutions that will work best. There's a lot of questioning that takes place to get to the answers. But we all have them.

And we all have the ability to know how to solve our own dilemmas, to overcome our individual challenges, to move forward. We may just need that little push. My coaching technique does that for you; however, I combine that with my BIKE philosophy to help create a system that's always available and easily accessible to you, precisely when you need it. And if you forget, it's there to remind you. We all need those reminders as well.

If you're in need, right now, of help that can lead to problem solving in your life, maybe it's time you asked for help.

If so, post a comment. Maybe I can help. It not me, a referral might net you exactly what you need.

All my best,

Friday, 15 August 2008

Can You Change Your Destiny?

By Michael Beck
The answer is “No”.

Let me clarify that. I don’t believe we can change our true destiny – that is, the destiny we secretly know to be true - for the truth is the truth. But we can and should change that “destiny” or fate that we have resigned ourselves to accept. You see, that “destiny” isn’t really a destiny at all. Instead, it’s an admission that we don’t know what else to do. It’s an indication that we’ve run out of ideas, we’ve run out of energy, we’ve run out of belief, and/or we’ve run out of hope. And staying in that mindset – the mindset keeping us from realizing our true destiny - would be an unfortunate waste. It takes resolve to break free from that mindset, but we can and should choose to rise above that state – to leave that life of mediocrity behind and progress down our path towards our true destiny. How do we accomplish that? It takes a shift in attitude and a shift in action.

There are two critical perspectives to adopt with respect to attitude. It is absolutely critical to have a positive attitude and it is absolutely critical to have an attitude of gratitude. (You can read my articles on positive attitude and on gratitude on my website.) When you have a positive attitude, you end up attracting positive things into your life. You find opportunities where you once only saw obstacles. When you are grateful for what you have, you allow more good things to come into your life. Don’t confuse being grateful with compromising or being satisfied - being grateful is different.

As far as taking action goes, there are two important issues to consider. One issue is whether what you are doing for a living is what best suits your skills and talents. If not, then move on to something that is a better match. The second important action-related issue to consider is nicely summed up in that famous definition of insanity we’ve all heard: “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over, and expecting different results.” Acknowledge that what you’ve been doing (or at least HOW you’ve been doing it) doesn’t work. Decide to open up your mind to other ways of doing what you do or trying altogether new approaches to moving you towards your success.

Anyone can make great strides towards advancing in the direction of their destiny – but it takes a definite shift in attitude, a definite shift in action, and a bit of courage…

Author's Bio

Written by Michael Beck, “Head Zookeeper” at , a marketing strategies website dedicated to getting more clients, making more money, and having more fun! Receive a FREE program on recruiting & prospecting success at:
Permission to reprint with full attribution. © 2008 Exceptional Leadership, Inc.

Unlocking Potential

by Lynn Scheurell
Cosmic evolution is dancing through you right this minute... it's a pretty big deal. In case you've never thought of it, you are the physical expression of the universe, just like a single grain of sand creates a beach. Being the physical expression of the cosmic universe is an honor that only the heartiest souls can handle. And by just being who you are, you have a unique ability to make manifest something that, without you, would not exist much less contribute to the greater whole through the world around you. But no pressure... :+)

Now that we've gotten that out into the open, let's take a look at what that really means... to be a physical manifestor on behalf of the universe.

You came here to be a unique individual amongst billions. No one else has your combination of body chemistry, childhood experiences, beliefs, desires and life "lens" through which you see and interpret the world, amongst about 8 gazillion other unique qualities, skills and characteristics. Bottom line: there is no one else exactly like you who can do exactly what you came here to do in the way that you know to do it. Even if you don’t know what that means. Yet.

At the same time, you've been given everything you need to do "it". When you realize that you are here to do something important, when you feel the calling of your spirit, the stir of your soul compelling you to take action, to show up, to be more... well, there's no denying it. You are being called to give back to the universe in the way that you, and only you, can do.

And THAT is why you are here… to put into action your unique ability to make a greater contribution to the universe by using source energy in the world around you. Giving back to source energy makes a full cycle… you’re here with unique and potent talent as bestowed from source energy, and using it to make a difference in the physical plane gives experiential form and function to universal energy. So giving back to the universe, in the form of using and sharing your unique piece of universal energy, evolves both you, in the experience, and the cosmos, in the contribution.

In other words, as you share your unique energy in contribution and service to the world around you, you are manifesting the rewards of source energy in application and motion. You are yielding physical results that matter in a big way. You are manifesting for the universe.

So, here's the big question: what are you here to manifest? What are you here to do? What are you here to give back? NOW we're talkin'...

If you are feeling of being "in the flow", where everything seems to be working for you, you’re happy, people around you feel good, and you feel like you are creating something that makes a positive difference, chances are you are already giving back in vibrational resonance with your unique purpose. Congratulations �" you inspire the rest of us!

However, if you feel something is missing or not fitting together well, if you're not happy or have a vague sense of anxiety (I call it the "Lamborghini stuck behind a lawn mower" feeling), if you feel like you don't matter much, or wish that life would just slow down, well... those are some big clues that you aren't manifesting in alignment with your natural reason for being. It's not always big clues ... maybe you feel like you're stuck in a routine rut, or don't feel like getting out of bed more days than not. Basically, if you're not feeling vital, charged up and stimulated to go out and do more of what you know makes the world a better place on a regular basis, it's time to consider where you could be giving back more by expressing the focused power of your unique being. Your soul is hurting by being too scrunched up in whatever little box it's had to live in for too long �" it isn't doing what it's here to do, and neither are you.

What to do now? Well, here's the good news. If you're still reading this, it's time to evolve your experience so you can give more... and as you give more, you are able to receive more. The more engaged you are in making a positive difference, the more you are naturally attracting amazing opportunities to enjoy and make an even bigger difference. (It's another full cycle...)

At any rate, here is what you need to know to grow yourself to give more starting today...


You are here as a whole and perfect physical expression of the power of the universe. When you are in the flow of your true being, things just… well, flow. It takes more energy to resist your true calling. In fact, it's effortless to be who you are! You might do more work but it will feel easier and more joyful when giving from your natural state. It's flat-out less work when you give naturally... when you share your unique talent with the world around you with the awareness that you're doing it from your essence. It will fill you up and feel wonderful when you're no longer pushing to restrain your spirit to fit into someone else's mold, judgment or even a job.

Remember that, without you, the things that you can manifest would not exist. Give back to the universe by manifesting through your true, unique, essential, beautiful and most precious self.

About the Author

Lynn Scheurell, Creative Catalyst, works with soul-driven entrepreneurs to create a livelihood from their true purpose. This type of business development requires extreme personal clarity in combination with innovation and active implementation of proven business practices. Download a free report to learn "The Seven Deadly Mistakes That Keep Soul-Driven Business Owners from Making Money" at

What Is Your Destiny?

By Michael Beck
The other evening I was out having a cigar and a beverage. While sitting around a fire pit (an outdoor wood fire), I overheard an interesting conversation. [We were all sitting and standing pretty close to one another and this group was talking fairly loudly, so one couldn’t help but hear.] This guy was bemoaning how bad his life was. He looked to be in his late twenties. His wife offered a different perspective on their life, but he would have none of that. He went on about the many events in his life that had defeated him (and he obviously felt he was a “victim”). He complained about all the things that had happened to him or had been done to him. He complained that no matter what he did, things kept turning out wrong. He even pointed to where they lived as proof that he was a failure. Then he continued on about how God must have abandoned or punished him. He also decided that surely he must have “bad” genes – that he was simply wired for failure.

Now maybe you don’t know anyone like that or maybe all that sounded a bit extreme, but let me draw a parallel to some of the people I’ve met in business. I’ve seen lots people who have done “OK”. They have a business, a home, and a family. They can pay their bills for the most part – at least the minimum payments. They’re liked by others, and view themselves as capable and competent. And yet… something is wrong. In spite of what they’ve achieved, they know they are destined for more. Inside, in their heart of hearts, they know that where they are in life is not where they could be. Some of these folks secretly feel they’re destined for greatness of one kind or another. Some secretly feel they’re destined to impact large numbers of people. Some secretly feel they’re destined to have great financial success and recognition. But none of these folks have realized their destiny. In fact, they’re often nowhere near where they want to be.

No doubt they started their adult life in pursuit of their destiny with big goals, ambition and energy. But time after time their efforts met with mediocre results. They tried one approach to achieve success, but didn’t have much success. Then they tried a different approach, but got the same result. And next, a third approach with poor results. And consequently, slowly but surely, they begin to accept mediocrity. They begin to accept the “fact” that they just aren’t meant to succeed. That the destiny they once envisioned for themselves was a fantasy and instead, their “fate” or ultimate destiny is to be “average”. These people have the very same mentality as our friend at the fire pit. These people end up adopting a defeatist attitude – and you already know how I feel about the importance and impact of attitude on our life. (If not, go to my website and read my recent article on attitude.)

Maybe you are one of those people I described above. Maybe you (secretly) know what your true destiny is, but have gotten to a point where that spark of a vision has almost been extinguished. Maybe you have tried “everything” and feel that your “destiny” is one of mediocrity – living check to check, not having much of an impact, and/or being completely unenthused.

Anyone can make great strides towards advancing in the direction of their destiny – but it takes a definite shift in attitude, a definite shift in action, and a bit of courage…

An Anger Management Programme Will Help Adults

An Anger Management Programme will help adults as individuals or as couples. A typical private session will attempt to sort out issues, give a really clear and in-depth understanding of anger and emotions so that the participant understands how everything works and why things have been the way they have.

Children from angry families most often pick up anxiety, frustration and agitation that flavor how they see life. The research on Post Traumatic Stress Disorder shows that early trauma in life interferes with the ability to regulate emotion, which then leads to excessive anger, fear and rage. This inability to deal with frustration and anxiety can lead to extreme out bursts of aggression. Or it can surface as icy cold hostility as a means of controlling other using looks of disgust to convey displeasure.

People experience anger in many different ways and for many different reasons. What makes you angry may only mildly irritate one of your colleagues, and have little to no effect on another. This subjectivity can make anger difficult to understand and deal with; it also highlights that the response
is down to you. So anger management focuses on managing your response (rather than specific external factors). By learning to manage your anger, you can develop techniques to deal with and expel the negative response and emotions before it causes you serious stress, anxiety and discomfort.

If your outbursts, rages or bullying are negatively affecting relationships with family, friends, co-workers and even complete strangers, it's time to change the way you express your anger. You can take steps on your own to improve your anger management.

Have a look at for more information.

This author writes informative articles on various subjects. Learn how to manage your anger.

Do You Know the Consequences to Road Rage?

Over the years of driving I have watched and been involved with road rage. From what I have been through it is so much easier and safer to just let the other person by, or in! A couple of weeks ago a friend and I witnessed a terrible wreck. I told her, I thought that the accident looked like it was road rage. We couldn't even tell what kind of car it was, it looked like a small compact car. The worst thing was there was a baby hanging out the back window, still in its car seat and gas was dripping on the poor child. There were 3 flights for life helicopters and the highway was closed down for a while. This accident really disturbed me and I called one of the local tow truck drivers and asked him what happened.

I cried when he told me the story. I want everybody to listen and start thinking when people get you angry and you want to pull a road rage on them.

A local family up in the mountains of Colorado, mother, 14 year old daughter and a baby at the most a year old, is now suffering because a mother didn't stop and think what she was doing and how it was going to affect them the rest of their lives.

From the tow truck driver's description, this is what happened. There was a Buick Century with the family and a Subaru Legacy. The Legacy moved into the passing lane and tried to pass the Century. The Century sped up and got into the fast lane in front of the Legacy and slammed on her brakes. The Legacy had no option other than to hit them, it spun the Century around into a tree, which flipped the car then was t-boned by another tree. The person in the Legacy was not injured and was very upset that there was nothing he could do.

The extent of the injuries received by the family are, the mother has a broken neck, broken back, and internal injuries. The 14 year old received a broken neck and trauma. The baby was released the next day from the hospital.

When the mother heals, she will be facing all of these charges: Careless driving, reckless driving, road rage, Child abuse resulting in injuries, Child neglect and God only knows what else.

So she is now facing losing her family and never being able to see them again, paying for all the medical bills, Looking at jail time and stiff penalties and the picture of her children being in a car wreck that their mother caused.

The children are facing the mental and physical injuries without their mother by their side. The children have to figure out why their mother did what she did. They have to suffer not having her near them because of her actions.

Please think about this when you get angry out there on the road. Yes there are dumb and stupid people out there, and why be one of them? Think what you might cause! Think about your family, your life and your home!

Just smile at that person trying to pass you, pray for the person that won't let you pass. And understand that maybe that person not letting you in the traffic might be having a rougher day than you, so, don't make it worse, make it better, let them in and forgive them. You might need it someday too. Life's too short to put your family and your life at risk on a stupid person out driving.

Carolyn Roome

Anger Management - 5 Techniques That Work

It can be heart wrenching to watch the effect of unrestrained anger on a family or a work place. Anger has destroyed a lot of families and has wrecked several relationships. Unrestrained anger can make you a very lonely person. If you have a problem curbing the angry beast inside of you, you can adopt the following anger management techniques;

(i)Diffuse: Diffusing your anger involves diverting your anger and channeling it into more beneficial activities. Research has shown that vigorous activities tend to take away the force of anger. Try engaging in activities such as swimming, jogging, running or going for a long walk. Such activities tend to clear your head and make you less angry.

(ii)Change base: When you are angry, try and move away from the source of your anger in other to get a rein on your emotions. The chances that you will lose your cool when you remain in the same vicinity of your trigger are high. So the next time someone makes you angry, leave the place. Walk away. It's not cowardice. It's maturity.

(iii)Count to ten: When you feel your grip on anger loosing its hold, you can mentally start counting to ten. Counting diverts your concentration elsewhere and reduces the intensity of your anger.

(iiii)See the funny side: Humor is always an excellent anger control tool. When you are vexed, try and see the other side of the coin... the funny side of the coin and feel your anger draining away.

(iiiii)Judge favorably: Make excuses for the person who gets you angry and don't be too quick to jump into conclusions. Anger is usually a response to the way you judge situations and actions. Changing your judgment about a particular anger trigger can help to prevent you from getting angry all the time. anger management is simply a matter of making the decision to be calm.

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Emotions That Give Rise to Anger

Its common knowledge that human emotions are versatile and fickle. What's uncommon knowledge is that human emotions such as anger are actually a product of other baser human emotions. Anger is the result of other emotions. You just don't get angry. Something compels you to get angry. Research shows that anger is always linked to other emotions. The following are emotional sources of anger;

• Low self esteem: Some people suffer from an inferiority complex and tend to think that no matter what they do, they will never measure up with expectations, whether it's theirs or the expectations of people around them. Such people respond to this emotion in two ways. They either go through life avoiding confrontation or they get angry at what they perceive to be the unfairness of life and charge at every trigger like a hot headed bull. Feeling inferior can cause a whole load of anger to build up-- at you... at your parents and at society. For these people, uncontrolled anger is a form of power that usually ends up bringing them down.

• Frustration: A constant feeling of frustration can give birth to anger. If you go through life getting frustrated at not having your way in most things, you will ultimately end up getting angry all the time.

• Envy: Envy is a strong negative emotion that can lead to anger if it isn't tackled early enough. Envy can be a real stronghold that prompts you to get angry especially when your object of envy seems to have everything under control.

• Unforgiveness: Bearing a grudge no mater how 'small' it is can lead to anger. Anger that is a product of unforgiveness usually festers on the inside of a person. Unforgiveness leads to anger because it is an emotion that lets the person to constantly remember the wrong done to him or her.

• Fear: When you are constantly fearful of things in every sphere of your life, you tend to be an angry person. Fear plagues you and keeps you from living life to the full. Usually, your anger will be subconsciously directed towards yourself for what you perceive to be a weakness and towards other people for not accepting your fears.

If you have an anger management problem, finding the root cause of it can be a positive step towards taking care of it.

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4 Perks to Having Anger Management Counseling Online

More and more people are turning to anger management classes to help them handle their anger problems. The management of anger problems are designed to help people who cannot control their temper to find meaningful and positive ways to express their feelings. With the constant advancement of the internet, you can have access to classes online. Which have a lot of advantages which include the following;

• Anonymity: With online classes, You don't need to feel embarrassed, you don't have to worry about revealing your identity. You can chat with your online counselor without revealing your name or your status. Many people are leery about revealing who they are to an online counselor. No one will know about who you are if you were to sign up with a anger problem program online.

• Convenience: Programs usually are run at a particular time or place that demands that you build your schedule around it. With online managing your anger programs however, you can attend classes anytime you like and build the time table around your schedule.

• Absence of pressure to talk in a group: In a typical setting, you are inclined to share your struggles with other people who are going through the same thing. Basically, with an online anger control program, it's a one on one interaction with your counselor. You won't need to go through the humiliation of talking about your problems in front of total strangers.

• Cheaper: Classes online are cheaper than those done offline. You will obtain a certificate at the end of your course online just like a person who goes to an offline class to take anger management courses.

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Anger and Aggression

Everyone is subjected to anger and aggression in different scenarios. This is a simple fact of life. The key is learning how to control the anger rather than letting it get out of control and ultimately control you. Anger management skills are required by all of us nowadays and we have to accept that there are problems lying underneath the anger, which we often ignore. These are the real issues, which should be addressed in order to manage our anger.

The problems, which we face throughout our lives, accumulate in our minds as frustrations and can make a person very edgy. When we are in this frame of mind we can abruptly turn on anyone, without a reason. So the major issue is that there are frustrations that make a person go ballistic and such frustrations have to be be managed in a appropriate manner. Anger management techniques are essential in preventing this type of outburst by addressing the underlying issues.

Anger is directly linked to positive or negative attitudes. Most people are prone to the latter, which is totally destructive.Positive anger is a bit more difficult, but not impossible to achieve, because with positive anger, you can find solutions to your problems in a cool and level-headed manner. This is the best form of anger management.

You can learn a lot of anger management techniques by undergoing anger management counselling which will assist in turning your negative anger into positive anger. We should not lose our cool during any situation and should use all the anger management techniques,methods and tools we have at our disposal to help solve our problems.

For example,if you have a fight with your best friend, you get a feeling deep inside that something has gone wrong and you are in danger of losing your best friend. This can be a source of frustration for you and what you must do is talk to your friend about the problem you are both experiencing and resolve it. Remember, good friends are hard to find.

Another real life example is when you find out that someone is spreading negative rumors about you, like you drink, or you use drugs, or you are stealing money from home. Obviously anyone will get angry in such a situation, but you cannot go to that person spreading the rumors and just hit or assault them which quite often anger outbursts can prompt you to do.

The best way to solve this type of problem is to go to the person or call them and ask in an assertive manner what his/her problem is and why he/she is spreading such bad and untrue rumors about you. He/she will probably deny doing these things but irrespective of any denials you need to tell them in a more assertive manner that you are aware that this has been going on for a while and you will not tolerate it anymore and he/she should stop immediately.

Above all it is important to remain calm throughout the exchange and not let your anger show. This is of paramount importance .Outbursts of anger in this type of situation are only likely to make matters worse, rather than lead to a reasonable conclusion. They will come up with the truth eventually and usually apologize.

Assertiveness is a positive form of anger management that needs to be practiced.

One of the best ways, recommended by many anger management teachers, to solve problems of any kind is never ever do anything out of anger as this is very likely to cause more harm. Always approach problems in a calm and controlled manner, or walk away until you have managed to calm down.

The best anger management tip is to stop and think before acting out your aggression.

Article written by Norman Holden editor and owner of a website about Anger and Aggression.

Visit his website on a regular basis for up-to-date news and help.

Anger Management For Men

There are many things in life that men get easily annoyed or impatient with such as traffic jams, ignorant drivers, complaining, inappropriate text messages; the list goes on and on. It's normal for anyone to get angry with these things, but the feelings seem stronger for some men than others. For the extremely hot headed, the littlest thing could make them fly off the handle. Some even enjoy having a bad temper; it makes them feel more masculine. Uncontrolled anger can even end a marriage or career or may be deadly. How do you know that your anger is out of control?

There has been evidence that confirms anger can diminish your health. Anger is more than just an emotion; it is actually psychological as well as physiological. When you lose your temper at a moments notice your nervous system leads to increased breathing and cortisol levels, higher blood pressure, dilated pupils, and headaches. Basically your body is getting into the flight or fight response mode due to the increased stress.

A recent study found that people who had increased levels of anger with normal blood pressure were more likely to develop a coronary artery disease and 3x's more likely to get a heart attack than the least angry people. Anger's stress hormones could contribute to arteriosclerosis, the build up of plaques in the arteries that can cause heart attacks and strokes. It has also been linked to depression. Angry people are less likely to take care of themselves, eat unhealthy, smoke, and drink excessively. Being angry is fine as long as you do something positive with it. The greatest music and works of art have been a result of anger and frustration.

You can control anger the same ways you would relieve stress by practicing deep breathing techniques, exercising, going for a walk, leaving the environment which caused the anger, close your eyes and count to 10 and picture yourself in a calm place. It is a common myth that acting in a rage by throwing things, for example can help rid the anger. Blowing your stack is not a good option but neither is suppressing your anger. If you are annoyed with someone you need to try to resolve it in a rational way by being assertive, not aggressive or passive aggressive in any way. If you know a certain situation or person pushes your buttons, try to prepare for it or better yet avoid it. Serious problems need to be treated with an anger management program.

Lyla Feldman writes about health and fitness. Some of her favorite passions include writing about energy drinks and natural sleep aids.

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Being Confident: Developing Inner Game Strategies

It happens to some of the best athletes, CEOs, actors, and public speakers in the world the loss of words, the inability to take action or even move, and the proverbial dropping of the ball. For some, choking under pressure comes at the 9th inning when the game is tied, bases are loaded, there are two outs and the best hitter in the league has just stepped up to the plate. For others it comes with the mere thought of playing the game.

An athlete, CEO, actor, or speaker can have all the outer game tools in his or her toolbox but if she doesn't have the inner game needed to put those tools to work she will find herself frustrated, falling short of her full potential, and choking under pressure.

Imagine your inner game like the software in a computer. You can have the greatest hardware on the planet, a shiny new 32 inch monitor, slick new wireless keyboard and mouse, a really cool black tower with pretty blue lights, and a great workstation to put it all on but if you don't have the proper software inside or if you have some old obsolete software to run the system and perform the tasks you want it, all that outer equipment or hardware won't mean squat.

The inner game of confidence is your ability to control your focus, your state, and your emotions rather than letting them control or rule you. It's the ability to believe in yourself and your ability to succeed.

I'll go one step further and say it's the knowing that you will succeed. The key for anyone looking to create more success in their lives whether in athletics, business, or even relationships is the ability to master their own inner game.

The empowering emotional state of being confident is triggered in most cases by an internal thought or vision. And so are the disempowering emotions of self doubt, frustration, fear, and disappointment.

Because of the way our brains process information every time that inner voice suggests something negative and you entertain that thought, your brain creates a picture or internal representation of that thought. If for example the pitcher facing that best hitter in the league were to say to himself, "don't let this guy get a hit" and he entertained that thought his brain would immediately make a picture of the guy hitting it out of the park, dramatically increasing the likelihood of it happening.

So next time you're in a potential choke situation and that little inner voice says something that could keep you from succeeding, simply acknowledge it and usurp its power by saying "thanks but no thanks! Then refocus and take action.


Learn more about mastering your mental game with the Inner Game of Confidence program and extended 6 hour audio version. Tom Terwilliger has spent the past 25 years learning, practicing, and disseminating, the benefits physical fitness, and sound nutrition. Tom is a former Mr. America, transformational speaker/trainer and television and radio talk show host.

Why People Feel the Way They Do

by Annette Estes
Have you ever wondered why some people seem driven to make a lot of money while others honestly seem to be satisfied with just "getting by?"

Have you known people who do so much for others they become enablers and you think that's not a good thing? Or do you know people who seem so immersed in their own needs they don't do enough to help others?

If another person's beliefs and attitudes are diametrically opposed to yours, you'll have problems relating to that person and may have serious conflict because of your differences. Basically, the greater the gap between your values and someone else's, the more difficulty you'll have with that person.

Here are some tips on how to understand your own and other people's attitudes and improve your relationships with them.

Know Your Values

There are six values, first defined by psychologist Eduard Spranger, that we all have in varying degrees. They are:

Theoretical (passion for knowledge) Utilitarian (passion for money and what is useful) Aesthetic (passion for beauty, balance, and harmony) Social (passion for service to others) Individualistic (passion for power and control) Traditional (passion for finding the highest meaning in life)

Your top two values are what drive you and must be fulfilled for you to achieve happiness in life.

The characteristics of people high in a particular values cluster go deep and are too numerous to mention here. But if you know and understand your own values, you'll have more clarity as to what you want to do with your life.

Know Others' Values

If your top value is someone else's lowest value, you're going to have misunderstandings and conflict with that person. I once had a client whose top two values were Social and Traditional. She and her daughter were having serious relationship problems. We discovered (with values assessments) that the daughter had her mother's top two values as numbers five and six. It was like Mother Teresa and an atheist trying to see eye to eye.

But once they understood where their conflict was coming from, they were able to improve their relationship considerably.

Understand Your Differences

Certain values clusters produce strong conflicts with others. For example, if you're high in the Theoretical attitude, you value knowledge. You take an analytical approach to solving problems and believe decisions must be rationally justified.

If the other person is high in the Aesthetic value, you'll conflict with the way you see things. High Aesthetic people value the artistic episodes of life and tend to make emotional decisions, based on the way they feel.

Whether we call this left brain vs. right brain or head vs. heart, the cause is differing values. Understanding values characteristics will take you a long way toward resolving your differences.

Let People Be Who They Are

Understand people have different passions that drive them to get what they want. As Anais Nin said, "We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are." If you can appreciate that values are neither good nor bad - just different, it can help you appreciate other people's point of view and be less judgmental toward them.

Set Clear Boundaries

Of course, in your efforts to improve relationships, you should never let people criticize you for being who you are, either. Generally, when people know you understand where they're "coming from," most will be more understanding with you.

It's important to make it clear to others how they may and may not treat you. I had a friend once who was high in the Theoretical value. She used to roll her eyes and get irritated with my "stupidity" for not knowing something she thought I should know. When I explained that I'm not stupid, that I graduated magna cum laude, second in my class in college and was uncomfortable with her attitude, she stopped treating me with disdain.

It's all about having self respect and respect for others. When you and another person know and understand your differing attitudes and why, communication improves and you can develop more relationship compatibility.

To improve your relationships, order the ebook "Why Can't You See it My Way? Resolving Values Conflicts at Work and Home" at Annette Estes is a Certified Professional Behavioral and Values Analyst, life coach and Managing Director of The Estes Group. Get your own personal values assessment by contacting her at

About the Author

To improve your relationships, order the ebook "Why Can't You See it My Way? Resolving Values Conflicts at Work and Home" at Annette Estes is a Certified Professional Behavioral and Values Analyst, life coach and Managing Director of The Estes Group. You can also have your personal values assessment by contacting her at

The Power of Thoughts

by Peter James Field
That thoughts have a consequence is one of the most basic of all mental laws.

The fact is that we so often choose to view thoughts as flighty things -- once thought, we wish them away as though they never were. No harm in this, we reason, it's just a thought. Yet perhaps this is not the wisest approach we can take.

Believing that thoughts themselves have no real and actual affect upon us, we can so very easily allow even the most negative thought to go unchecked and unchallenged. After all, we reason, it's only a thought, it doesn't really matter.

It's as if we believe that thoughts are wispy and insubstantial things, with no real existence, capable of dissipating and disappearing into the ether once we have experienced them. Perhaps it's because our thoughts are such private things that it's easy to imagine them as insubstantial and intangible.

This of course can only happen if we hold the belief that the mind and the body are quite separate, disparate entities, each with its own distinct domain, operating independently of each other.

The truth, of course, is that mind and body are indeed interconnected, with each affecting the other. Each thought we think has its consequence. And those consequences can indeed have a tremendous affect, not only on our mind and our feelings, but also on our body. Negative or positive, thoughts do indeed have a very real affect upon us.

Let me illustrate this with a simple little exercise that nicely demonstrates the tangible effects of thought - and the interconnectedness and inseparability of mind and body. To do this, I am going to ask you to use your imagination.

Imagine yourself walking over to your refrigerator. As you open the door, there's the soft sound of the seal being broken and perhaps the feeling of cold air escaping. Now, imagine that there's a lemon in there and imagine yourself reaching in and taking that lemon out. Maybe you can sense its cold feel, as you carry it over to a board where you can slice it.

Now imagine yourself taking a knife and slicing the lemon in half, lengthways. Perhaps you can see the white, pithy part and some seeds too, as juice trickles out. Now cut the lemon again, so that you have a quarter, a nice wedge. Lift it up and hold it under your nose. Perhaps you can almost smell the pungent lemon aroma. Now imagine yourself sinking your teeth into that lemon wedge. Really squeeze it so that the juice spurts into your mouth and onto your tongue, maybe some of the juice even trickles down your lips onto your chin.

Exercise over.

If you really did imagine sinking your teeth into that lemon and squeezing the juice into your mouth then a couple of things will probably have happened: The muscles of your jaw will have automatically tightened as you did so and there will have been an increase of saliva in your mouth.

Now, we know that the flow of saliva is not under the control of the conscious mind; it's controlled by the unconscious mind. It simply cannot be willed.

What's happened, of course, is that the subconscious mind cannot distinguish between real and imaginary. For it, a thought is treated as a reality and an imagined lemon is as real as an actual lemon. The simple act of thinking about sinking your teeth into a lemon is enough to produce the exact same physical affect as if you had really done so.

A thought which existed in the mind has had a tangible effect on the body.

In India, the very real nature of thought has been recognised for milleniums. There, astrologers make horoscopes for the birth of a thought or a question, in order to better understand it. It is a practice that has survived thousands of years. This branch of astrology is called horary astrology. For these astrologers, a thought is something very real and tangible.

The fact is that the thoughts we think affect us on many levels, including the physical. This means that the thoughts we have and the things we tell ourselves, about ourselves, in the privacy of our own mind affect not only how we feel, but what we become. After all, if thoughts have physical consequences, then they can make us ill or well.

When you find yourself thinking negatively, or experiencing a period of difficulty in your approach to the world, when you find yourself thinking thoughts such as: 'I'll probably come down with...'; 'I'll never be able to..'; 'I'll probably only fail...'; 'I don't really deserve...'; immediately replace the thought with a positive statement or affirmation. And repeat it at least 10 times. Make a habit of this and you can change your reality.

Here are some examples you can use, and of course you can create your own as you go along. Select one and use it for at least a month.

'I am becoming balanced and whole in body, mind and spirit'

'The past is over now and I am free to move on with my life'

'I am alive, healthy and free'

Be sure to repeat your positive statement 10 times when you awaken in the morning and just before sleeping at night. Repeat it any time you find yourself engaging in negative thinking. Remember, practice is the key here. Simple persistence produces real results!

'What we are is the product of what we have thought. It is founded on thought. It is made up of our thoughts.' The Buddha, The Dhammapada

About the Author

A leading British hypno-psychotherapist, with practices in London and Birmingham, UK, Peter Field is the author of many articles on psychotherapy and hypnosis. He is a Fellow of the Royal Society of Health and Member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy. More articles and useful information can be found on his website:

Rewiring Your Brain to a Millionaire Mind

by Marie Leonard
When I read Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker, the way I looked at being rich as a possibility for me took on a very different meaning.

Finally, here was someone putting in plain language what it was that made me different from someone who was rich and showed you how to do it in a practical and applicable manner.

Throughout his book, Mr. Eker has what he calls "wealth principles".

The first principle simply states that our income can only grow to the extent that we grow as individuals.

But in order to do this, you have to identify what it is that is stopping you from growing in the first place.

According to Mr. Eker, how we think about money starts with our very first blueprint. This blueprint is formed by verbal programming, modeling of our behavior on others and by experiences we have had during our life.

Without going into the nitty gritty, let it suffice to say that many of us suffer from a skewed idea of what it is to be rich and have money. We have been programmed without our conscious knowledge to think in a certain way. This is what is keeping us poor.

But our brain can be rewired to think as a rich person thinks.

Mr. Eker believes that declarations are a powerful secret for change and he consistently uses declarations throughout his book.

He is fond of saying "What you hear you forget, what you see you remember, what you do, you understand".

This is why he has us touch our heart while verbally declaring the statement and then touching our head with our forefinger while reprogramming our brain to the new statement.

The first one goes like this with your hand on your heart: My inner world creates my outer world.

Now touch your head and say: I have a millionaire mind.

Now I wanted to add to that a way that would accelerate our re-programming efforts.

I have been in the alternative health field for 14 years and have studied many different ways to heal the body and mind.

One very easy and simple technique that shines in the area of healing the mind is EFT, which stand for Emotional Freedom Technique.

EFT is simply an emotional version of acupuncture except needles aren't necessary. Instead, you stimulate well established energy meridian points on your body by tapping on them with your fingertips.

The process is easy to memorize and is portable so you can do it anywhere. I created a video on YouTube that shows you exactly how to do it.

The following declaration by Mr Eker is a wonderful declaration which your intellect believes but has not yet imprinted itself upon your subconscious.

"What I heard about money isn't necessarily true. I choose to adopt new ways of thinking that support my happiness and success."

Touch your head: "I have a millionaire mind".

EFT can speed up the process considerably to re-connect the wires in your brain to actually believe this statement. However, we will need to forgive ourselves for believing the wrong thing for so long.

The first affirmation to use with EFT will be: "Even though I have allowed myself to be programmed, I deeply and completely accept myself."

The basic recipe is to do what is called the sequence, the gamut and then finish with the sequence once more, just like building a sandwich with the meat in the middle of 2 pieces of bread.

To see all the specific points you need to use while doing this exercise, you will need to see the video. On the other hand if you are familiar with EFT and already know the tapping procedure, then you might be interested in applying this affirmation to rewire your brain to that of a millionaire mind.

Once the sequence is done it is followed by the gamut which fine tunes the brain using the brain's creative side and really hastens the progress.

We are always looking for ways to improve ourselves, especially in the area of money and how we think about it. If you continue to think that there is just not enough to go around then that is what the Universe will give you but learn to think in "abundance" then you will reap "abundance".

About the Author

Marie Leonard is a health researcher and network marketer who is dedicated to helping people improve their lives physically and financially. Follow the technique with her here: and then click "Only The Technique" video. enjoy!

5 Ways Dreams Will Change Your Life

by Carla McNeil
Dreams - what are they?

Dreams are different things to different people. Thank goodness we all have different dreams. The world would be a pretty dull place if we all had the same dreams. Dreams are a series of images or pictures that we can see. They can be hopes or aspirations that we have. Dreams are something we have longed for, maybe even since we were children. Dreams are something you can see yourself doing in the future. I can see myself living in financial freedom - free from the corporate slave camp.

1) Dreams will give you the map for your future

In order to get anywhere in life you need to know where you are going. If we do not decide for ourselves where we want to be in five years, then others will decide for us. Who would you rather have making the decisions regarding YOUR life --YOU or someone else? Dreams allow us to have the image of our future on the inside. The dream must be on the inside before it will show up on the outside.

Can you imagine where you would end up if you attempted to drive across the country without a map? The map can provide the big picture "my driving route from Vancouver to West Palm Beach". It can also provide the specific detail on simply how to get out of the city of Vancouver.

When we start the dreaming process it can take on a life of its own and the map begins to develop. In my journey, as I achieve the smaller dreams, the big dreams just keep getting bigger. Things that I dreamt about years ago that I believed were "way too big" for me, are now coming true. As I achieve those smaller dreams the ideas, examples and means for the larger dreams simply show up in my life, my map is growing and developing.

2.) Dreams help you handle the negatives in your life

We need to keep a watch out for those dream thieves. They come in ways you wouldn't expect. Your family or friends is where you can really be blindsided. Receiving a remark from a family member or a friend like "Who do you think you are?" or "Your name ain't Rockefeller" can devastate you, or even worse can make you abandon your dream.

Being prepared is our best defence! Simply knowing that it can happen helps. Understanding why people do that to their friends and family helps even more. They do not want you to leave them behind. They want you to stay in that nice comfy niche with them for the rest of your lives. If that nice comfy niche is not the life of your dreams, it is time to move on.

3.) Dreaming keeps you young

Many people believe that only kids dream, that once we become adults we "should" not dream anymore. (Tell that to someone who dreams about winning the lotto - use a different example -this doesn't make your point use e.g. Harlan Sanders or Abe Lincoln) or the grandparents who dream of taking their grandchildren to Disneyland . Granted in our society today children are better at dreaming, but I believe that to be one of our biggest tragedies that we are not taught to dream throughout our entire lives.

Dreaming helps us to stay young. I love this quote by John Barrymore. "You are not old until regret takes the place of dreams."

4) Dreams will give you that reason for living

When I was in my mid-thirties I was diagnosed with depression. I was able to get out of that depression without the use of drugs because I began personal development as well as doing things for others instead of focusing on myself. That personal development allowed me to take the first steps and start dreaming again. Dreams are possible if you can see them on the inside. We are not given a dream we cannot accomplish, our dreams are our reason for being here.

5.) Dreaming about the impossible makes huge impacts on yourself and others

Sometimes dreams seem impossible, but where would we be if it were not for the dreamers of the world like Walt Disney or Bill Gates? Can you imagine Walt Disney standing in those orange groves in Florida and having the dream of Disneyworld? What an awesome reason for getting up in the morning! You wouldn't be reading this on your computer if it were not for Bill Gates. Both men have proven to the world that once you see that dream on the inside you can make it come true. I can see you doing better with your family, your job, your business, your relationships, and your life!! Where do your dreams fit in? YOU can come up with a great idea, a wonderful reason to get up in the morning and make it come true.

You can get started right now on your dreams. What are they, if you have no idea I want you to sit quietly for one uninterrupted hour with pen and paper. You need to start writing what your dreams/goals are. When you sit for one hour you can get past all the great "stuff" that most of us want like the home of our dream, that great car or that awesome family vacation.

Be as specific as you can. Once you write those dreams out you will then be able to uncover any other dreams from your heart. That is where the fun begins. Once you get them written out, send me an email with all your dreams listed. Committing them to paper and sharing them with someone else furthers the process of making them real.

I look forward to reading your dreams! And thank you for having the courage to write them down and share.

About the Author

Carla has discovered the beauty of a home based business. She is building a team of champions who want to live the life they were meant to live. Carla assists, coaches and mentors her team to get out of the "corporate slave camp" and do;

1) What they Want

2) When They Want

3) With Whom They Want

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A Snake Is A Snake

by Shalisha
What do you do when your husband cheats on you with your best friend? I never thought this would ever happen to anyone I knew. Actually, I never thought this kind of thing happened to anyone. My best friend Gina, myself and Alice were childhood best friends. We did everything together. We even all went to the same college. When Gina met Roger on campus, it was love at first sight. They seemed like the perfect match and had everything in common.

I could sense that Alice had a lot of envy towards Roger and Gina for being the perfect couple. I couldn't understand Alice's barbed comments directed at Gina behind her back. But then again, I always had a deep mistrust for Alice. I ignored her catty comments, but always made a mental note to keep her at arm's length distance. On Valentine's Day, Roger proposed to Gina at the most exclusive restaurant in New York City. Gina was elated. Roger's parents were well-to-do, and he bought her an engagement ring to the tune of $40,000.00. Needless to say, Alice was beside herself with jealousy. She didn't bother to conceal her jealousy either. Roger and Gina were married 2 years later.

One weekend, the four of us booked a weekend trip at a Club Getaway sort of deal, and after a night of partying and drinking, myself, Gina, Roger and Alice decided to call it a night. In the middle of the night Gina and I heard noises. We got out of bed and listened closely. It was Roger cheating on Gina with Alice. Gina burst open the door and had a stunned look on her face. I wanted to die. Needless to say, Alice lost a best friend, Roger lost his wife, Gina lost her heart, and I was stuck in the middle.

What do you do when your best friend sleeps with your husband? I know this is hindsight, but, I believe people tell us who they are when we first meet them. I never trusted Alice. To me, Alice always came across as competitive, manipulative and jealous, even as children. Gina always brushed off Alice's jealous comments about other women and flirting with other people's boyfriends. I didn't. To me, I knew that if Alice could be so blatant about flirting with someone else's boyfriend, she was capable of doing anything - even to her own friends. She proved me right.

As for Roger, he showed us (Alice included) who he was way before they got married. Roger was extremely handsome and charismatic. Lots of women flirted with him and he gladly reciprocated - even in front of Gina. I always told Gina that his behavior was not only disrespectful, but insensitive and hurtful. Gina, as always, brushed it off as him "just being himself". Well, I guess you could say that Gina was right. Roger was being "himself" and Alice was "being herself." It's too bad Gina wouldn't believe what they were telling her through their behaviors.

The moral of the story? People tell you who they are within the first few minutes of meeting them. Had Gina paid close attention to Alice's behavior and Roger's behavior instead of trivializing their behaviors, she would have been spared the heartbreak, hurt, and humiliation.

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The Keys To Good Communication

Clear communication is a key factor to a happy and fulfilling life. How well you communicate will determine the quality of all of your relationships, therefore determining the overall quality of your life.

The reason why most people have unsatisfactory results in their life, is because they have poor communication skills. People get frustrated when they don't get what they want,and often times don't realize it is because they did not communicate clearly, what it is they wanted.

Poor results come from poor communication, not only in personal communication, but also in metaphysical communication. Many times people do not get exactly what they want in life because their communication to the Universe or the Higher Power and to themselves is unclear.

You must be very clear on exactly what it is you want when communicating with another person, The Universe, or yourself.

I know you may be thinking, what do I mean with yourself. A lot of times we are wishy washy with what we want. We tell ourselves "I kind of want this,but I also kind of want that." or "I guess that would be alright.". We need to be very specific with ourselves of exactly what it is we want. We cannot express clearly, to someone else, what we want if we are unclear, about what we want, ourselves.

First we will discuss how to communicate with your Higher Power to get what you want, then we will discuss how to communicate with other people. I am using the term "Higher Power" or "Universe" because I do not want to offend any one's religious beliefs. You can replace the term Higher Power with God or whatever name you believe the creative source to be called. The principles for communication will be the same.

To manifest what you want in life, from a metaphysical standpoint, I would highly encourage you to sit quietly with a pen and paper, and write exactly what it is that you want to create in your life. Write what you want in great detail. The more detailed you are, the better. Remember, this is about being extremely clear about what it is that you want.

After you have written what it is that you want, I would highly suggest that you read what you wrote one to three times a day out loud. This will benefit you in two ways. First, it will help your mind get extremely clear and focused on exactly what you want. Your mind being clear will help you stay focused, take proper action and communicate to others in a more clear, concise and effective manner. The second benefit is, the two most powerful ways to communicate with the Universe, to manifest, is through writing and speaking. Writing creates the most energy, with speaking creating the second most energy. Writing and speaking to the Universe are your two most powerful ways to create what you want.

Now let's talk about our everyday communication with other people. There are many elements that go into positive effective communication. There is verbal and nonverbal communication.

The words that we use only make up 7% of our communication. The other 93% is voice tone and body language. What that means is, before you have even said a word, you have already said a lot.

It is very important to practice paying attention to your body language and voice tone. It is important to be aware of your voice tone, when you speak. Have you ever had someone ask you for something in a whiny sounding voice; or how about in a very demanding tone of voice? Think back to when someone has approached you with either of these voice tones. Did you really want to give them what they were asking for? Probably not, you were probably pretty turned off by their approach. Having a friendly confident tone can be very effective.

Body language is huge! So many people are giving the wrong signals and they don't even realize it. Your words and voice tone may be saying one thing, but your body is saying something very different. The non verbal speaks louder than the verbal, always. The person that you are communicating with will most often not even realize that they are being effected by your body language, however they are, it happens on a subconscious level.

Pay attention to your body language. First of all make sure you are standing up straight with your shoulders back. Good posture communicates confidence. Confidence is attractive to everyone. You are much more likely to have someone say yes to you, when you exude self confidence, than if you do not. Another tip is to avoid standing with your arms folded in front of you. Arms folded communicates that you are stand offish and blocking the other person from getting through to you. It also communicates disinterest.

Eye contact is so important, because of so many reasons. I will just cover a few reasons here. For one thing, it shows strong self confidence. It also allows you to have a strong connection with the person you are communicating with. A lot of people do not trust a person that avoids eye contact and building trust is the number one component to effective communication. Eye contact can be hard for some people. If you are someone who has difficulty with maintaining eye contact, begin practicing now. It begins with awareness, then practice, then mastery. One of the most important skills that you can practice and master is maintaining good eye contact.

Next comes the words that we use. Even though words are only 7% of our communication, they are still extremely important and require conscious awareness to use them effectively. There is so much to cover, when it comes to the words we use. I will share some resources for you to study on your own, that will help you with everything that we just covered. First let's cover what I believe to be one of the most important things to be aware of when it comes to the words you use.

Most people's main focus when they communicate is on themselves. They use the word "I" over and over again. Understanding that most people's main interest is themselves can be a very valuable tool for you. One of your greatest tools to be a great communicator is to stop using the word "I", "Me" and "My" so often and start using the word "You", "Your" and "Yours" much more often. People love to talk about themselves, and if you let them do it, you will be their most favorite person in the whole world, because most of the people they talk to are talking about themselves most of the time.

Another important thing to realize is that people love the sound of their own name. Use a persons name often during a conversation with them. They will be putty in your hands.

Remember, God gave us two ears and one mouth so talk less and listen more. And really listen, a lot of times when another person is speaking we are caught up in our head thinking about how we are going to respond or just waiting for our turn to speak. Listen with you complete focus and attention on what they are saying then trust that you will be able to respond organically. The best communicators are the best listeners, not the best talkers.

To really master these skills and take your communication to a whole new level, I would highly recommend that you begin to study NLP. NLP stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming. By mastering NLP, you will become a master of influence. NLP will cover the best way to use your words, how to build powerful rapport, how to read other people and so much more.

Here are a couple of tips on how to build powerful rapport. Match the speaking style of the person you are talking with, whether it is in person or over the phone. It is a good idea to match the voice tone and speaking speed of the person that you are talking to.

Another powerful tool is to mirror the body language of the person you are communicating with. Don't mimic them, just subtly mirror them. When you do this you are sending them a subliminal message that you are just like them.

Remember, no matter where your communication skills currently are, you can always be better. To be a better communicator it just takes self awareness, the desire to be better and practice.


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Self Love - The Foundation of All Your Relationships

Self love forms the foundation of your single, most important relationship - that with yourself. The strength of all your other relationships is exactly equal to the strength of that foundation. To love yourself is not simply a self esteem boosting piece of advice. It is the prerequisite to truly loving others. The golden rule tells us to "love your neighbour as you love yourself". You are likely to have heard it many times, expressed in different ways, thinking it is about loving others. Look a little closer though and you will find that at its very center is the command to love yourself.

The Mistaken Identity of Self Love: Let us first dispel some myths about what it means to love yourself. Self love is not about being arrogant, selfish, self-centered or egotistical. It is not about comparing yourself to others to determine if you are good enough. It is not about always putting yourself first. It is not about always getting your way. It is not about always winning. It is not about "only looking after number one".

Will the Real Self Love Please Stand Up: To love yourself is to be in awe of the miracle of your existence. It is to accept yourself as you are - the light parts and the dark - and to love them both equally. It is to be willing to receive as much as you are willing to give and do both equally. It is about knowing your values and your boundaries and honouring them. It is about teaching others how to treat you by showing them how you treat yourself. It is about being kind to yourself. It is about looking after your mind, your body and your spirit - all three. It is about knowing you are worth it, not because of what you have achieved or what you look like or what others think of you, but because love is your birthright no matter what.

What Do You Most Need to Hear: Take a moment to think of those things you most need to hear from others. Whether it be that they love you, or admire you, or accept you just as you are, or appreciate you, or forgive you. Take a piece of paper and write them down. Make sure to exhaust your list. You will find that what you most want to hear from others is what you most need to tell yourself. You should now have a thorough list of positive affirmations tailor made for you. Repeat them every day, morning and night and you will soon discover a sense of self love and inner peace you never had before.

You Can Only Give That Which You Possess: It is an obvious statement that you cannot give something that you do not possess, yet so many people desperately love others without having or giving love to themselves. It is little wonder that in time there reserves of love are exhausted and their relationships falter. To give love you must first have love. To have love, love yourself. Only then will you be able to truly love others for the pure joy of loving them. Give the love you wish to experience to yourself and you will find all your relationships transform in miraculous ways.

There is But One Source of All Love: There is a single, intelligent Consciousness that pervades the entire Universe - all knowing, all powerful, all loving, all creative and present everywhere at the same time. It is the Universal Mind. It is the Source of All Love. It is Love. When you know and understand the Truth that you are one with the One Source of All Love - that your very essence is love - then you will have discovered unconditional self love and unlimited reserves for everyone and everything. You will know that to love yourself is to love the One Creator.

The Benefits of Loving Yourself: Self love is a win-win for all. It provides you with an inner happiness, confidence and peace of mind that is not easily swayed by outside events and opinions. It enables you to make healthier choices and the best decisions across all areas of your life from your intimate relationships to your finances. It allows you to truly rejoice in other people's good fortune rather than wondering "why, not me" or even resenting it. It enables you to be more genuinely loving towards others and to be of greater service to the world at large. Ultimately, the more you love yourself, the more every thing and every one you encounter benefits.

In a nutshell, loving yourself is a prerequisite to loving others. Your relationships are only as strong as the foundation of your self love. Release any belief you may hold that loving yourself is selfish or egotistical and replace it with the Truth that your very essence is love, that unconditional self love is your birthright. When you know that you are one with the One Source of All Love, that you are connected to every thing and every one, you will know that you cannot possibly experience true love without first loving yourself. You will have discovered the Truth that self love is truly the greatest love of all.

Tania Kotsos is the founder and author of Mind Your Reality - Your Ultimate Guide to Using Mind Power to Create Your Reality. She has been studying mind power and the nature of reality for the last 15 years.

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