FAMILY visits can be Fun and not Stressful!

We recently had a family of five stay with us for almost three weeks. The guest room was used and the office was full of children on the floor. The small kitchen was always fragrant with something cooking, and the table squeezed us all in for meals. Every chair was used in the living room, and someone usually was patiently waiting for a shower or to use the toilet.

We had a ball! Would you like to know how? We were as polite to each other as we would have been to strangers. We picked up our own messes and helped share in the responsibility of cooking, cleaning and doing laundry. No one took advantage of anyone else, and when the children began to squabble - the parents / or grandparents attended to resolve the problem instead of ignoring because of adult conversation.

No one drank alcohol. Let me repeat that: NO ONE DRANK ALCOHOL! No I am not a prude and yes I do have a glass or wine or a drink once in a while. But this is what I've learned over the years:

If no one drinks while at a family gathering, misunderstandings WILL NOT happen. Children will not be left on their own. Arguments will NOT happen.

I've seen it so many times in "past" days. Keep in mind. Alcohol is a drug and if affects everyone differently. Most can handle a drink or two, but many simply cannot.
There is always (guaranteed) one who gets mad or upset or just plain drunk and stupid.

Don't take that chance with your family - or anyone else's for that matter. You will remember the gathering with love and joy. Keep in mind also - children LEARN what they see and hear - and they see and hear MUCH MORE than you will ever know....until perhaps it's too late.

Have fun. Stay away from alcohol at your next family visit and you will be part of the pleasure, not the problem!

Honest!