Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts
Friday, 12 December 2008
Monday, 14 July 2008
Wednesday, 16 April 2008
Wednesday, 2 April 2008
Monday, 28 January 2008
Secret #113 Time Management for Women
As we all know, men can be so high maintenance.
I mean, a real relationship with a real man can interrupt your schedule and take up so much of your personal time and energy.
What a pain!
So how can you, as a woman, get the emotional comfort of a relationship with a man without the emotional drain and time hassles of actually having a relationship with a real man?
To all women everywhere, I say look no further!
You don't need a real man. You only need 25% of a man (and not the 25% most men think). And think of all the time, money, and energy you'll save with 25% man. He doesn't make any messes, talk back, or leave the toilet seat up—and he's always ready to cuddle.
Get your 25% man now... all you have to do is decipher the language of the country where they sell these.
* Note to women who are already in a relationship with a real man: No trade-ins allowed.
I mean, a real relationship with a real man can interrupt your schedule and take up so much of your personal time and energy.
What a pain!
So how can you, as a woman, get the emotional comfort of a relationship with a man without the emotional drain and time hassles of actually having a relationship with a real man?
To all women everywhere, I say look no further!
You don't need a real man. You only need 25% of a man (and not the 25% most men think). And think of all the time, money, and energy you'll save with 25% man. He doesn't make any messes, talk back, or leave the toilet seat up—and he's always ready to cuddle.Get your 25% man now... all you have to do is decipher the language of the country where they sell these.
* Note to women who are already in a relationship with a real man: No trade-ins allowed.
Monday, 3 December 2007
Secret #103 Notice the Correlation Between the Pace of Your Life and the Quality of Your Relationships
The quality of all your relationships is inversely proportional to the pace of your life.
Monday, 27 August 2007
Secret #90 Ooo-La-La Principle--Part 2
In workshop settings I ask people to list their most important priorities. I often get something like this:
1. God
2. Family
3. Work
As sincere and thoughtful as this list is, it violates the Ooo-La-La Principle: Besides God, there is nothing more important than your spouse.
So what's wrong with the above list? It puts your kids on an even level of importance with your spouse. Don't get me wrong... I'm reallly found of my kids... all six of them.
However, if you list family as second priority, your spouse will lose out nearly everytime--because when it comes to giving time and energy--the kids win. But it's a mistake to have a kid-centric marriage. Why?
1. Because they're gonna be leaving... and that's NORMAL... but you will still want a marriage after the kids are gone. (You'd better not wait until after the kids are gone to invest time and energy in the marriage.)
2. In this age of high divorce rates, kids draw much of their personal security--not from how much you love them--but from how much you love your spouse... no joke! (Assignment for tonight: Make out with your spouse on the couch until the kids yell "GROSS!" Sure they'll act like you've damaged them for life, but they will KNOW that you love each other... and that's good for the kids.)
3. Kids should learn early that they are precious and important to you, but that the world does NOT revolve around them! (We're dealing with way too many adults right now who have never gotten the message that life is not about them. Let's not make any more.)
Therefore, I say, long live the Ooo-La-La Principle! Long live the spouse-centric marriage! Long live the Song of Solomon!
Are you ready to apply the Ooo-La-La Principle? Then click here to download the six message series from Tommy Nelson on the Song of Solomon.
Or, if you have iTunes and would rather download these as a podcast, type the words "Denton Bible Church" and click "Love Song" to get the entire Song of Solomon sermon series for FREE.
1. God
2. Family
3. Work
As sincere and thoughtful as this list is, it violates the Ooo-La-La Principle: Besides God, there is nothing more important than your spouse.
So what's wrong with the above list? It puts your kids on an even level of importance with your spouse. Don't get me wrong... I'm reallly found of my kids... all six of them.
However, if you list family as second priority, your spouse will lose out nearly everytime--because when it comes to giving time and energy--the kids win. But it's a mistake to have a kid-centric marriage. Why? 1. Because they're gonna be leaving... and that's NORMAL... but you will still want a marriage after the kids are gone. (You'd better not wait until after the kids are gone to invest time and energy in the marriage.)
2. In this age of high divorce rates, kids draw much of their personal security--not from how much you love them--but from how much you love your spouse... no joke! (Assignment for tonight: Make out with your spouse on the couch until the kids yell "GROSS!" Sure they'll act like you've damaged them for life, but they will KNOW that you love each other... and that's good for the kids.)
3. Kids should learn early that they are precious and important to you, but that the world does NOT revolve around them! (We're dealing with way too many adults right now who have never gotten the message that life is not about them. Let's not make any more.)
Therefore, I say, long live the Ooo-La-La Principle! Long live the spouse-centric marriage! Long live the Song of Solomon!
Are you ready to apply the Ooo-La-La Principle? Then click here to download the six message series from Tommy Nelson on the Song of Solomon.
Or, if you have iTunes and would rather download these as a podcast, type the words "Denton Bible Church" and click "Love Song" to get the entire Song of Solomon sermon series for FREE.
Tuesday, 14 August 2007
Secret #89 Ooo-La-La Principle--Part 1
Even if you're a casual reader of this blog, you know that this blog is NOT your ordinary how-to-squeeze-more-into-your-already-overloaded-life time management blog.This blog is about the adventure of figuring out what is most important in life--then focusing our energies on living for that which is TRULY most important. I encourage you to smile and wave in defiance at all the lesser things screaming for your attention (even it if makes people unhappy--including church people and relatives)--and do that which is most important. (It feels good too.)
That brings me to the Ooo-La-La Principle. This principle begins with understanding that besides God, there is nothing more important than your spouse. We know this. We say this. But we obviously aren't living it. Christian marriages are falling apart at about the same pathetic rate as non-Christian marriages. Many of us who remain married aren't exactly good advertisement for the God-ordained institution of marriage (I'm speaking directly to myself here too). But the Ooo-La-La Principle doesn't stop at acknowledging the importance of prioritizing our spouse. (Anyone can give lip service.) Instead, the Ooo-La-La Principle proactively plans for time and connection together as a couple. Yep, make no mistake about it. The Ooo-La-La Principle is all about stoking the fires of romance in your relationship--you know what I'm talking about--that whole lovey dovey thing that leaves most marriages about the time of the wedding.
And make no mistake about it--this is a time management issue! (Gasps of shock!)Contrary to intiution, the Ooo-La-La Principle will REQUIRE two very important proactive action steps on your part: 1) time, and 2) work. Yep--it takes time and work to be a Lance Romance. (Not what you thought... is it?)
For those who dare to proactively prioritize their spouse--and give the time and work necessary, the Ooo-La-La Principle promises great benefits. And to help you step into those benefits, I want to pass along a FREE resource to help you get started on the Ooo-La-La journey with your spouse.
It's Free!
I first heard about Tommy Nelson's excellent sermon series on The Song of Solomon by listening to Dr. James Dobson's Focus on the Family radio program a few years ago. I was immediately intrigued and loved the message I heard. We'll I recently searched for the complete series of six messages--and discovered they ALL can be downloaded for FREE! (Thank you God and Tommy Nelson.) So I invite you to use the links below to download the six messages and listen to them yourself. Then listen to them with your spouse--and TALK about how they might apply to your marriage (such a radical idea). Yes--it's a virtual marriage retreat... only better... because the topic is The Song of Solomon... and it's only you and your spouse! {Note to any single folks: I think a listen to these messages would be VERY helpful to you as well--as the the first two messages are "The Art of Attraction" and the "Art of Dating."}
So--are you ready to apply the Ooo-La-La Principle? Then click here to download the six message series from Tommy Nelson on the Song of Solomon.
Or, if you have iTunes and would rather download these as a podcast, type the words "Denton Bible Church" and click "Love Song" to get the entire Song of Solomon sermon series for FREE.
Monday, 16 July 2007
Read anything good lately?
Finding your way in life is a journey not meant only for yourself. We're here to live life with others, in the spirit of togetherness.
In business, a manager might call that teamwork.
Six months ago I spoke to a community college president for an article I was working on; it was actually an assignment to write short profiles of six or seven successful women involved in Arizona public policy. This particular woman told me during our phone visit that she gave assigned reading to her employees, but not just any reading. She assigned them the current best-selling business books to read, and then they met to discuss what they learned so they could apply the principals to their work. This was only the second time I'd heard of a college president doing that. From our conversation, I learned that she also understood we are meant to work together for the good of all. That's what really makes us successful. Her story inspired me.
In my life, I've known many people who did not seem to understand this concept.
How many times, for instance, have you seen a couple at a restaurant, a nice restaurant even, not say a single word to each other as they waited for their meals to arrive. And then afterwards, while waiting for the bill, they still said nothing! I've observed this many times. And the sad looks I've seen on some of these faces usually said it all. I've often wondered why communication seems so difficult. It doesn't have to be, particularly not with those people in our lives, our loved ones or co-workers, who rely on us. If we chose to say what needs to be said and choose to allow this from others -- without judgment -- that decision can lead to more meaningful relationships all the way around.
If you're in need of learning how to take care of yourself in this way, by speaking up when you need to, I recommend reading The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Even if you don't agree with the spiritual nature of the story behind his lessons, you'll likely agree with the lessons themselves: be impeccable with your word; don't take anything personally; don't make assumptions; always do your best.
Finding your mental BIKE requires this kind of input, and awareness is key to the knowing. Your mental BIKE rides, when taken daily, will lead you not only to where you really are in your head but also to where you really want to be.
All my best,
Jackie
In business, a manager might call that teamwork.
Six months ago I spoke to a community college president for an article I was working on; it was actually an assignment to write short profiles of six or seven successful women involved in Arizona public policy. This particular woman told me during our phone visit that she gave assigned reading to her employees, but not just any reading. She assigned them the current best-selling business books to read, and then they met to discuss what they learned so they could apply the principals to their work. This was only the second time I'd heard of a college president doing that. From our conversation, I learned that she also understood we are meant to work together for the good of all. That's what really makes us successful. Her story inspired me.
In my life, I've known many people who did not seem to understand this concept.
How many times, for instance, have you seen a couple at a restaurant, a nice restaurant even, not say a single word to each other as they waited for their meals to arrive. And then afterwards, while waiting for the bill, they still said nothing! I've observed this many times. And the sad looks I've seen on some of these faces usually said it all. I've often wondered why communication seems so difficult. It doesn't have to be, particularly not with those people in our lives, our loved ones or co-workers, who rely on us. If we chose to say what needs to be said and choose to allow this from others -- without judgment -- that decision can lead to more meaningful relationships all the way around.
If you're in need of learning how to take care of yourself in this way, by speaking up when you need to, I recommend reading The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Even if you don't agree with the spiritual nature of the story behind his lessons, you'll likely agree with the lessons themselves: be impeccable with your word; don't take anything personally; don't make assumptions; always do your best.
Finding your mental BIKE requires this kind of input, and awareness is key to the knowing. Your mental BIKE rides, when taken daily, will lead you not only to where you really are in your head but also to where you really want to be.
All my best,
Jackie
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